Post # 1
Tonight I basically had a breakdown with all the things i have left to do.
I have SO much accomplished, but I feel like in the next two and a half months I have a billion things to do for this wedding and no one to help me!
How is everyone feeling? How are you dealing with the stress??
Post # 3
I keep on coming up with new stuff to do. Also trying to find an end to my random DIY projects is not going so well. Right now my goal is to get as many projects done as I can. I also need to sew Jr. Bridesmaids and a flower girl dress, and make a lot of the desserts for my sweets buffet.
It bugs me a little when i am sitting on the couch working on stuff and Fiance spends all day playing a video game, but anytime I ask him for help he is usually useless anyways! Arg. I haven’t been getting a ton of help from my family or bridal party, but they help when they can. I’ve just accepted the fact that I wanted this, so I am going to have to do it.
Normally I deal with stress well. Right now I am a little nervous with everything getting so close, but I am still confiendent that I can complete everything.
Post # 4
Oh, completely right there with both of you. So much to do, thousands of petals to stick to a runner, etc! Fiance is decently helpful, but he is just a guy and can only understand so much haha. Although, my first dress fitting is on Sunday and I’m stress eating because my grad school finals are next week, not a good combination!!
Every now and then I catch myself and can’t help but smile when I remember that none of the details matter, and all that matters is that I’m marrying the love of my life =)
Post # 5
I’m still waiting for my first real freakout. I’m sure it’s coming, but no full blown ones yet. I had a mini freakout about a week ago when Fiance was talking about how we don’t have to do everything so quickly ie. getting him a suit, ordering rings etc.
But with that done, I’ll be calm for a few days/weeks more.
Post # 6
I’m feeling okay so far. All of the guys are fitted (except for FI’s dad), and all the BM’s except for my sister, have picked up their dresses. I went for my first (and only) fitting a couple weeks ago, and should be picking up my dress sometime next month.
I still have a lot of the smaller details left. I need to finish addressing the invites, but I only have about 4 left to do.
I’m leaving for an 8-day cruise tomorrow, so when I get back I’ll start working on more wedding stuff!
Post # 7
*Raises hand wildly*
I feel like I have sooooo much to do, but every day goes by and the list grows more and more no matter what!
My BMs dresses arent in yet, I havent picked out a flower girl/jr bms dress yet, I still need to find another baker since the one we secured disappeared off the face of the earth, we havent gotten our invites yet, and I need to get working on our programs and menu cards. Those are the biggest things, there are more little unworked on little details…so yes I am freaking out and have been for the past 2 weeks
Post # 8
I would have been right with you all before last week happened. But since last monday my whole attitude on the wedding completely changed, I feel a new sense of calm over the whole thing. I got in a really bad car accident and was told I was lucky I got out alive and since then I’ve realized there is so much more to stress about then wedding stuff. People keep asking to come and before I would have been so upset and stressed with the guest list increasing but now it just doesnt matter, my Mother-In-Law wanted to pick the flowers and I spent a whole week being so mad and upset at her attitude about it but now I just don’t care if I don’t like the flowers I just wont have any pictures with them!
I am so happy that I am here to be able to get married to my Fiance that the details of the wedding are just that “details” 🙂
Post # 9
@mrskrumpet: That is a great attitude. 🙂
Post # 10
So I haven’t had a freakout yet.. But I am starting to get more wedding obsessed and wanting to get things off my to do list.. I feel I am ahead but there are still quite a bit of details I have to figure out. My parents must be getting tired of my random emails and messages asking for their help haha.
I am starting to realize it is coming up soon but my vendors haven’t started to bug me yet so I’m getting a bit anxious wondering why not haha. Apparently there is some drama between the Moms and Maid/Matron of Honor with planning my bridal shower.. Ugh.
Do you know when you are meeting with your vendors to go over the details? Like your photographer and giving them a shot list. Your DJ with your songs.. Your Officiant with what readings and what he is planning on saying at the ceremony..
In the next day or two I will send out the invites then once that’s done I bet I will feel a big weight will be lifted off my shoulders.
Post # 11
Not freaking out….yet! However, I just keep realizing how QUICKLY time is flying. Only a few more months until the big day! I’m going back to college, so I start school on June 6th and between taking a full load of classes and the wedding, I’m gonna be a big ball of stress!!!! I’m trying to get everything done now, so I don’t have to worry about it later.
Only a few things left to do:
- Finalize guest list (received about 1/3rd of our invitation responses back so far)
- Buy a bra for the wedding dress (still can’t find a good one that fits)
- Get the men measured for the tuxes (appt. is set for June 2nd)
- Apply for the marriage license (can’t do that until 3 weeks before the wedding)
Everything else is done…yay! At least I hope it is…LOL!!! 3 months and 11 days to go….
Post # 12
@mrskrumpet: Wow! Glad you are alright!
I have quite a bit of the little things left to do but I’m at the point where I think if they don’t get done it’s not a huge deal. I am just looking forward to marrying the man of my dreams =)
Post # 13
I was fine until last night at our first cake tasting when they told me they wouldn’t do what I “wanted” them to do. Now I feel like I will never find a baker who will accomodate my wish list!! YIKES!!
Post # 15
Don’t worry! Time does seem to fly when you’re wedding planning. All of a sudden you’re three months out and there is so much left to do!
I’ve had multiple freakouts since starting planning, some big and some small. We recently took a weekend and knocked off some big things: DJ, Florist, Hair/makeup, Cake, Invitations. I felt much better after that. Just make a checklist and work through it. It might be more helpful to dedicate a certain period of time (like one saturday or sunday) to only wedding planning to check a bunch of things off. My Fiance liked it when I gave him tasks, so I would give him one thing to focus on at a time (last one was DJ). That would be one thing less that I would have to worry about.
Don’t listen to those checklists in planning books that give you a strict timeline for certain vendors (like booking the DJ 8 months in advance), these definitely cause extra stress.
And the most important part when you do have a freak-out, as I have done many times, is to remind yourself what the day is truly about: you and him getting married and spending a life together! 🙂 So exciting and joyous.
Post # 16
@WillyNilly: Thanks I’m pretty proud of myself for my new attitude on this. I feel a new sense of calm and I feel like I can take over the world 😉
@pinkworkboots: Thanks it was a pretty scary time, never seen my Fiance so scared as I did when he got to the hospital.