(Closed) Okay for $5k??

posted 9 years ago in Money
Post # 3
932 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@ellejay16:  What is light reception food, and is there an indoor option? It sounds like a good deal if you like the place and it covers everything. Do you only have those two venues to choose from?

Post # 4
8679 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@ellejay16:  I think it depends what big city you live in. NYC, ok. Another city I’m not sure. It would help if people knew what area it is. However, if you’re happy with that then that’s what matters. It works out to about $250/person which is a lot unless it’s the NY area or LA or somewhere like that. 

Post # 5
8570 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

It’s hard for me to say, thinking that it’s for only 20 guests, it seems high. But considering you’re in a big city, it might be about right. What’s the venue look like? Is it lovely? Are you going to have a dj, open bar? You have to figure in your other expeses as well. What else will you have to purchase?

Post # 6
1311 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think that’s a bit much.

Our wedding is for 120 people. Our budget was 15,000 but with the dress and all came to 18,000.

Our whole wedding is pretty much 150 per person (including hair/makeup/attire etc….

Post # 7
8031 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@ellejay16:  Sounds reasonable to me. I wouldn’t do the crappy venue if you don’t like it. Ick.

ETA: I am assuming here that it’s fairly luxurious.

We sometimes go to places where we spend $400+ on dinner for the two of us (when on vacation), so for a wedding if gourmet food is involved, $5K for 20 people sounds like a bargain.

Post # 8
177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

That seems like a lot unless it is in a really expensive city/area. Also, the quality of everything listed must be taken into account. If it’s an amazing venue with great food/cake and decorations then go for it…if not then I’d look around more.

Post # 9
6013 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Yeah i spent $6k on our wedding for 80people.  That included flowers/dress/pictures/DJ and buffet (pasta, chicken veggies), set up break down, table cloths.  My  Father-In-Law paid for our liquor so probably $6200.00 total.

Had the wedding in the South, and it was indoors.  I kind of see your FI’s point.  If your used to thinking the reception was pretty standard… it might be hard for him to come around to your side.  Maybe see the intown option during the day, so all the wear and tear shows up or find someone that just got married there/been to a wedding there.  That could help.

Post # 12
21 posts
  • Wedding: September 2008

it acutally sounds like a really good deal…but only 20ppl?? thats the part that doesnt sound so good. i mean depending on what are you live in. i mean the rest sounds great, BUT only 20?? i mean if you wanted a small wedding from the begining ok. but if not i would see if you could discuss this with them. ask if there is anything you could compramise on to get more people. maybe cut out.


also what type of food. ok cocktail, but do you mean like shrimp cocktail, cucumber sandwhiches, fancy cheeses.


alot of people now have a candy/dessert table instead of the hot dishes/cocktail food.

like a chocolate fountain, small elegant cookies, little chocolates, fruit, macaroons.

or like a candy one, they have dishes of m&ms, small chocolates, lollipops, hard candies, etc.

you can google those ideas and find many of them. all very elegant or some more playful.

maybe you could compromise on the food to make room for more guest if you want. as i could just about guarantee the food is what is racking up the price.


either way though, if your happy with it, then yes its a good deal for everything else 🙂

Post # 14
9791 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

It sounds pretty reasonable for everything…but not cheap I guess.  That’s about $250 per person (before the dress and photographer).  Once you add those in I imagine it will increase a decent amount per person ($350 or more per person).  I’m paying almost $250/person (factoring in every wedding-related expensive except rings and HM).  About $20K for 80-85 people.  So while I think it’s a perfectly acceptable price, I don’t think it’s a super fantastic deal (based on the per head cost).

Do they include anything for bad weather? (tent or additional site?)  Does that include alcohol or just water/soda/etc?

Post # 16
926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

That sounds pretty reasonable. If you like the venue, then go for it! Ugh I wish I had all those details wrapped up w/ one vendor! lol

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