Post # 1
Hi fellow bees,
So the groom and I had about 6 months to do our wedding planning, so some things fell by the wayside. We only got around to thinking about the rehearsal dinner a few weeks before the actual wedding. His family is from Texas and my family is California/Vietnamese. Since we’re doing southern/texas style food for the reception, we wanted something asian for my family for the rehearsal. However, his parents will still expect something upscale. All the very nice Asian places in Palo Alto either had their private dining rooms already booked or they wanted $100 per person minimum. We weren’t about to fork over 3k for a rehearsal dinner. So we decided on a very nice Chinese place (for about $50 per person) that seemed perfect. Unfortunately, they only have room in the main dining room.
Do you guys think it will be odd to have a rehearsal dinner in the main room? Obviously it will limit any speechmaking, but I think it will still give our families a way to get to know each other.
Post # 3
I think it’s totally fine. As long as your group isn’t going to be really loud and ruin the night for other guests. If I were a guest at the restaurant, I wouldn’t be bothered at all by having another table make a speech or two.
Post # 4
@seachange: I have been to group functions in a restaurant that were not in a private room. To be honest, it’s not the best situation for either the group or the rest of the diners. Your group will interfere with their enjoyment of a night out, and they will interfere with your ability to make speeches and present gifts.
Post # 5
Thanks for the feedback, ladies. Since we’ll be in the main dining room, we decided against doing any speeches because we don’t want to disturb other diners. I’ve been to a few rehearsal dinners where there weren’t any speeches, and I wasn’t bothered by it. I’m just not sure if other other folks will find that strange. I’m thinking of the dinner more as a way for our families and wedding party to get to know one another in a low-key way.
Post # 6
We had our rehearsal at a restaurant but not in a private room. It was fine! We didn’t do speeches or anything, but we presented gifts and nobody in the restaurant seemed bothered by it. Honestly it was just like going out to eat except with more people!
Post # 7
@jazzy14: Thanks! I feel a lot better about it.