Post # 1
Up until a few months ago, I hadn’t really truly accepted that I’ve become really unhealthy and fat. I’d refer to myself as curvy or voluptuous, just pretty much anything where I can admit I’m not super thin, but I don’t have to admit that I’m overweight. It’s frustrating and depressing to be overweight, and I’ve pretty much decided that I’ve had enough. Oh, and believe me, the comments flowing in from people haven’t been exactly inspiring or encouraging. Pretty much thin folks telling me that if I’m not skinny on my wedding day, I won’t be pretty. Not those words exactly, but the gist is the same. I don’t believe that’s true, but when you’re overweight things like that just really, really get to you.
I don’t want to sound shallow or vain, but heck! I want to look hot on my wedding day. And I’ll be completely honest- since I’ve gained weight it’s been a long time since I’ve felt really good about my looks or my body. It’s a real downer to not feel good about yourself, and I don’t want to feel gross and insecure on my big day.
So, I figured right now would be a good time to start. I only have a part time job to worry about, and I’m off from school for the summer. It’d be a good time to work on forming new habits and getting healthy before I go back to school in the fall. I’m not really worried about the whole trying on a dress thing, because I plan on waiting until the last minute possible. ;P
Any other bees out there deal with the same thing? Got any advice or words of encouragement? 🙂
Post # 3
Well I gained about 20 pounds in the last year and was beginning to feel that “ugh I don’t want you to look at my fatness!” I called myself fat nearly everyday and it finally got to the point I was getting depressed. I only have a couple months to the wedding, so I decided to kick it into gear. I’ve lost 7 pounds over the past couple weeks, but feel fantastic!
I think every bride looks beautiful on her wedding day, but it is all up to how you feel. I knew I wouldn’t feel pretty without losing some of the weight. By the wedding I want to lose at least 15 pounds. By the honeymoon I want to lose 20-25.
Post # 4
I know how you feel serasvictoria! I have clothes that fit me nicely, flatter my larger figure, but everytime I see myself I just feel so blegh. Especially when I’m looking at pictures with my friends, since I’m the largest one in the bunch.
I think I could be happy on my wedding day even if I still was this size, but I would like to get down to my all time low- 145. I don’t care if it takes me right up until my wedding day to lose the weight, I just want it off! I just don’t want to make the mistake of continuing to wait and wait, and have my wedding day here and I haven’t lost any weight at all. I think that’s what would probably bother me the most, much more than actually being overweight on my big day. It’d kind of feel like a massive fail to set out with the goal of losing it all for my wedding day and not lose any, or actually gain some. :/
Post # 5
I don’t think that anyone needs to lose weight for their wedding and I never thought I’d be one of those brides dieting and working out for my wedding. However, most people just need the corect motivation to make those kinds of changes and what better motivation than having hundreds of eyes on you and photos that are going to last forever?
I’ve decided it’s not vain or shallow at all to want to look the best on your wedding day – especially if these are all things you’ve already been thinking of doing (I definitely knew that zero exercise was not good for me, even when I had no wedding to think about). So I just think of my wedding as the kick in the butt I needed to be healthier. Sounds like that’s your case too – so good for you and good luck!
Post # 6
I totally support you, mogget! I recently lost 20 pounds and if you want to talk I’m more than willing.
PS, Almost date twins! How’s the planning?
Post # 7
I have gotten to this point too. My fiance and I actually sat down the other night and contemplated weight loss surgery if this effort doesn’t work since we want children in a few years. That being said I have decided that this is my last effort to lose weight – and what better motivation than wanting to WOW your family not only by your beauty but your weightloss too! Where in TX are you? I am moving to TX from New Husband in a few weeks (which by the way makes wedding planning 100000x more emotional and stressful – which leads to comfort foods urgh) and I plan on slimming down and showing off the new me to family and friends at my wedding next year!! If you need support from a (almost) fellow Texan feel free to message me and stay in touch – we can motivate and support each other :o)
Post # 8
It’s not vain but I think you will also feel a lot better. I am not overweight, persay but I am on the heavier and um flabbier side. When I was 15 lbs lighter, I felt great both phsically and mentally. I think everyone likes to look and feel their best especially on their wedding day! Go for it girlie! You can do it!
Post # 9
You should try tracking your diet with sparkpeople.com. Diet is the largest part of losing weight. Good luck!
Post # 10
I am working really hard at it, but it takes times. Just don’t be too hard on yourself. Eat 1,200 calories a day and you will lose, but remember it takes time. I got serious about it around 2 months before the wedding, and I am just doing my best. I stopped going out to eat, which for me, makes a big difference. Also, I stopped going to movies, (which I LOVE to do) because I would always eat lots of junk food. I know I can do it for 2 months, you can do it too!!
Post # 11
Thanks so much everyone! I know that I’ve needed to lose weight for a long time, not just to look good on my wedding day, but because it’s totally unhealthy and a really, really rough thing to put my body through.
@helenberrycrunch: that would be awesome! The best advice always comes from the people who have been through stuff before. Planning has being going along sluggishly, but going! Looked at a few venues, but that’s about it. I’m waaay bad about procrastinating! 🙂
@TXNHBride: Where are you moving to in TX? I absolutely love it here! I’m from the Houston/gulf Coast area, but I got to school in College Station. Unfortunately, my Fiance probably won’t be able to get a job here, so I’ll probably be moving out of TX after we get married. :'( This makes me VERY sad!
Both of you guys (or anyone who wants a fitness/health/wedding planning to keep in touch with and vent to) feel free to message me! I am going to message you guys tomorrow, but right now I am absolutely beat!
Post # 12
I’m in the same boat. In high school, I used to be a stick thin 120 and could never get above 125. I was cursing my high metabolism back then. Now I’m cursing my LACK of metabolism. I had complications with my pregnancy (pre-eclampsia) and I ended up weighing 231lbs on the night I had my son. For two years, I weighted 184-186lbs… NOW?? I weigh 200lbs. I’ve recently gone vegetarian and I’ve cut out sodas and I’m drinking tons of water. I want to lose the weight not only to look better but I want to lose the weight due to my high cholesterol (high cholesterol and heart disease run in my family.. and so does obesity) and also due to my high blood pressure. I think that looking killer in my dress will just be a plus (no pun intended lol) for me. Today will be my first day walking/running so hopefully I do well because I have knee problems. If I do well then I’m hoping to make it a habit 3x/wk.
Post # 13
I’m in the same boat… And I’m dragging my Fiance with me. We both are foodies and my kidlets are nearly grown and out of the house so we eat out a lot and I LOVE to cook. I’ve got all of the “Diet” cookbooks and yeah some of the recipes are pretty good but my problem is time… I just never seem to have enough of it which means take out or me making a quickie dinner. Eating healthy takes more time at the grocery store, preparing the food to cook, etc. Ahhhhhh!!!!! Not to mention the fact that we both drink. Not that I’m alcoholic but I enjoy my cocktail when I get home from work and glass or two of wine with dinner.
So a few months ago I bought us a gym membership – then I went to TJ Maxx and bought us both a bunch of work out clothes. My thought was if I had some cute clothes I’d go… But they are all still in our drawers with the tags on them… We’ve yet to go to the gym!!!! Again there’s just never any darn time.
Something has to give other than the seam in my pants… I don’t even recognize myself anymore and I’m too the point where I don’t allow anyone to take a picture of me because I’m horrified when I see it.
20 years ago I was in the USMC and was always in trouble w/ my weight – not because I was overweight but because I was too skinny. Yep – the military has both minimum and maximum weight allowances. I was mandated double rations back then. Last month I found my Dress Blue uniform and was shocked when I held it up against myself. Back then I shopped in the kids department – size 14 or size 0. Now I’m a solid size 12 and 60-65 pounds heavier. I know a size 0 will never happen nor do I want to put in the effort to be that girl again but a size 6 would be lovely.
I get up everyday telling myself Today will be the day that I have time to take care of myself. And every night I go to bed saying Damn – I guess I’ll have to try harder tomorrow…. I’m starting to sound like Annie “Tommorow, Tomorrow I love Ya tomorrow – You’re always a day awaaaaaaaaay!”
Post # 14
I am doing the same thing- I started at 150 in February (I’m 5’4) and I am down to 130. I’ve got 5 months to go and I want to be 120 with nice arms and back. I am pretty sure I can do it, even though I’ve been plateauing for a month now D:
You know what, I think right now is the best time for us brides to be getting in shape. If you have some motivation or goal then it really helps. I think most people who make get-in-shape New Year’s resolutions drop them because there’s nothing really to follow through on it, you know? Whereas right now we can really visualize what we want for ourselves and how we want to look on our wedding day.
My advice: count calories, pace yourself (no crash diet before the wedding), go to the gym regularly, eat balanced meals and snacks!
Post # 15
I tried every diet. I excercise and was obsessed about my weight. I let it go, worked on eating right and still nothing! Have you heard of zi xiu tang? My firend lost 35 lbs on it. I thought about it but am trying to not focus on my weight.
Post # 16
ahhh now im motivated to get out of bed and go running and work out now.
i havent been happy with my body for YEARS now. i used to be 105 solid muscle and now i am a squishy 158 *gulp* thats right… about 50 pounds over 6 years. cancer, illness and failed relationship did its toll on me.
but now im happy and healthy again, but… fat. *sigh*
its hard trying to find time to work out, but then again if i have time to post this i have time to go get dressed and go work out… so thats what im gonna do.
i dont focus on weight though – i want to look good naked agan.
*tying up shoes* im going to the treadmill…. WHOS COMING WITH ME!?