Post # 1
So while I’m “waiting”, my boyfriend and I have discussed our reception venues and the cost associated with it.
He threw out a destination wedding as a possibility, and while that’s very romantic… I don’t see it as being possible with our family, friends, and the economy. Any pros/cons to DW?
The second one was a wedding downtown. We live in Chicago, and I would like a wedding on Michigan Avenue or a similar area for a few reasons. Most of the hotels or other venues here have fabulous views. I love downtown. It’s been the place I can go for a “breather”. When I lived there, I spent most of my time outside and milling about. Having guests downtown would work out well because a lot of our mutual friends and some family members like to continue the party – and they have SAFE public transportation, cabs, bars, clubs, and their hotel RIGHT THERE. Some of my friends don’t have cars (because you really don’t need them here), and it would be easy for them to come to and from the wedding. The downside is the cost. We’re realistically, for the venue and catering only, looking at 25K. We can afford this, but clearly it’s a lot and will creep up to around 30-40K with everything else considered.
The third option would be to say “screw it”, and have the wedding and reception in the suburbs. We’d knock down the cost to about $20K or so for the venue and catering, maybe less if we opt to go further out. The downside being my guests would need to rent cars, probably not drink that much, and plan out their evening accordingly. I wouldn’t get the photos I wanted in downtown with the wedding party.
*sigh* Thoughts? Anyone NOT doing what they wanted without regrets?
Post # 3
We’re doing a Destination Wedding with just our parents & 1 set of friends each. The resport we are having it at the wedding & gov fees were free if you stay 7 nights.
Then having a reception at home to celebrate with the rest of our friends & fam
Post # 4
It totally depends on what your budget is and what you feel comfortable spending. You say you could afford a 25k wedding. Is that an amount you’re comfortable with? Or would you rather budget for 10k? Or are you okay spending 25k if it gets you the wedding of your dreams? I think you should come up with a preliminary budget (which means figuring out guest list as well, at least the start of one) and then see how far that money will take you in the different areas. You might find that there’s a venue you LOVE in the suburbs and it will allow you to have a lower budget as well. Or you might find that the only place that can accomodate the number of guests you have is a place in the city.
As for pros and cons of DWs, I sincerely wish we had done one just because it’s so much easier (or at least it seems that way…I’m sure they have their own set of problems and issues). But it really depends on whether it’s important to you to have everyone you love with you to celebrate. A Destination Wedding is almost always going to be much smaller. And i t’s not necessarily less expensive, although I”m sure there are ways to make it cheaper.
Post # 5
Sounds like the wedding in the city is the best option. And it sounds like its what you really want. It just seems to have more pro’s than con’s. So while the extra money stinks, it might just be worth it to ensure that you, your guy and your guests have the most fun.