- 10 years ago
- Wedding: April 2009
So, I just got an email from FI’s aunt letting us know that most of her family won’t be making it to the wedding, and they hope that her son and his girlfriend represent their family well at the wedding. Umm….we didn’t actually know that her son had a girlfriend, and we definitely didn’t invite her to the wedding. He has already RSVP’d, only for himself, and in the several email conversations we’ve had with him about that weekend’s activities, he’s never mentioned bringing her. It’s not a huge deal….one extra person is not going to kill us or the budget and we don’t want to offend FI’s cousin in any way, so I sent him a friendly email to this effect:
Hey cousin! I just got an email from your mom and she mentioned that you have a girlfriend…I think Ashleigh is her name? We had no idea, but from what your mom said she sounds great! I don’t know if she is free, but we wanted to be sure you know that she’s more than welcome at the wedding. We’d really love to meet her and get to know her! Love, Us
And he promptly emailed me back with an “Of COURSE she’s coming :)” Well, it would have been nice if maybe you’d mentioned that at some point!! Were we supposed to read your mind? Our invite policy was that only guests in serious relationships (living together/engaged) got plus ones because we’re trying to keep it small. So it’s not like he had a plus one to fill however he wanted. I don’t know….should I have been meaner on this one? I just folded IMMEDIATELY and fell all over myself to make sure he knew she was welcome. I’m a little ashamed. Sigh. What would you have done?