(Closed) Okay so this is silly

posted 5 years ago in Holidays
Post # 3
9114 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m grinchy every year. It isn’t because I’m not getting the presents I want, it’s because I hate the holiday season in general.

Post # 4
2493 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m not feeling grinchy, but bummed out. Darling Husband and I found out we were expecting in early October, and were going to tell the families at Christmas… but I miscarried around 8 weeks. I’m still looking forward to getting together and all that fun stuff, but I feel awkward now. Part of me still wants to mention that it happened (because I don’t want it to go unnoticed/be forgotten–mostly by me, as silly as it seems), but I also don’t want it to be seen as a huge downer.

I’m secretly hoping Darling Husband buys me this necklace as a reminder, but I’m not getting my hopes up.

Post # 7
2493 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@sherryberry:  We have a 9-year-old Dirty Delete, but yeah, I took the loss hard. I know everyone will be supportive if/when we tell them, though, so there’s that. I guess I was just looking forward to the reveal more than I thought.

Post # 8
1956 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It’s not silly. You told him what you wanted. Surprises are fun but if there’s something you actually want, why wouldn’t he get it? And the whole futon thing? Yeah, no. They can bring a futon with them when they visit, and take it away if they want but – if I were in your shoes – there’s no way I would let that happen. 

Post # 9
1992 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@sherryberry:  Sorry but I think the futon thing is hilarious! Seriously? Who does that?

Post # 11
867 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@sherryberry:  see, I’m the complete opposite. My SO always asks me what I want for Christmas / my bday and I never tell him, b/c to me it’s not only about the gift but also the thought he put in. if it’s only “stuff” he’s getting you, I’d be annoyed as well. But if he wants to surprise you with something he thinks you like, I think that’s most lovely. 


The futon on the other hand … Well, let’s not go there … :-/

Post # 12
9072 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010


I am so sorry for your loss.

Post # 13
273 posts
Helper bee

I’ a bit of a hypocrite here because I’ve gone “off list” for my mum’s present, but would be mildly annoyed if anyone did the same with my list haha. But most of the things I’ve asked for have been practical things for a six month backpacking trip I’m taking, so I do actively want the things on the list, and anything else is kind of a waste since I won’t be able to take it with me or appreciate it until next year sometime. Whereas my mum’s list was a “rack your brains for anything you can think of” list.


If there is something you really, really want, I don’t see why he wouldn’t get you it! He might want to “surprise” you, but couldn’t he just make you happy with the thing you really want, and surprise you with smaller things if he has to?!

Post # 14
2196 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@MsquareM:  me too. I don’t like knowing my whole present in advance, espdcially for Christmas – at least not the whole gift. For me it’s a lot about showing a little creativity and thoughtfulness and that goes for giving and receiving.  I think the OP’s SO is just trying to be sweet!

but the futon… my oh my!

EDIT – @AmyJCardiff: has a point, why can’t he get what you want and some smaller surprises, that’s a good compromise!

Post # 15
7977 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

@brighteyedgirl:  I’m sorry to hear that. Here’s hoping you feel better after a little TLC from your friends and family!

I am in two minds about the holiday season. On the one hand, I enjoy the food, the company, and the atmosphere. On the other, I don’t like the gift grabs, the in your face advertising, and the fact it seems to get earlier and earlier every year… and last longer.

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