Post # 1
Neither my fiance or I are Jewish- in fact, we’re both Catholic-raised but currently happily agnostic and purely secular. Our families aren’t super religious and are pretty relaxed about definitions of faith, and we’re having a secular ceremony. While planning our ceremony, we knew we wanted to do an action to symbolize our union but don’t love the ideas of handfasting, unity candles, etc.
When we read about the Jewish breaking of the glass tradition, we both reacted very strongly to it and I for one got a little emotional thinking about it. It just seems like the perfect way to end our ceremony on an active, positive note! I love the symbolism of the practical impossibility of putting the glass back together = marriage is a forever devotion. (I know it has more deeply religious roots and meanings, but this is the part that appealed to both of us).
But since we don’t have a Jewish background, is this totally unacceptable to have included in our wedding? We’re not trying to be controversial or anything. What do the bees think?
Post # 3
I really don’t think you should use something that is so clearly tied to the Jewish community in your secular wedding. It’s very traditional and meaningful and obviously… well, Jewish, that for you to do it doesn’t make sense. Pick something else 🙂
Post # 4
There’s actually nothing positive about breaking the glass. You should read up on why Jewish people actually do this. It has nothing to do with marriage being forever. That might just be something nice that someone once made up.
Post # 5
1. Thats not why people break a glass. Isn’t a reminder that joy comes with sorrow or something?
2. I’d find it so strange if I knew neither the bride or groom were jewish and broke a glass. It’d be like jumping the broom or something.
Post # 6
No, it’s not really appropriate if neither of yo. Are Jewish or have any connection to the faith. there is a lot of debate over what the breaking of the glass actually means and more often than not you’ll hear that it represents The destruction of the temple in Jerusalem. So it’s religious ties might be greater than you think.
Post # 7
Okay, I guess we won’t be doing this then. I read about it being how life is full of sorrow and joy as well, too. We’re not traditional in how we are doing things, but I think this is why I asked- because I don’t want to offend anybody by doing this. I guess I’ve been to a lot of weddings with unity candles and that sort of thing and they weren’t necessarily Christian ceremonies, but Jewish and Christian traditions are obviously differently viewed. Thanks for your input! =)
Post # 8
Lgens: why would jpong the broom be weird? I thought that was a celtic tradition much like handfasting.?
Op: I don’t think it’s a good idea, 🙁 sorry
Post # 9
A unity candle is not a tradition, it’s just something nice and symbolic. Breaking the glass is a Jewish tradition spanning generations of a people all over the world.
Post # 10
@imalittlebirdie: really? learned something new today.
Post # 11
@imalittlebirdie: Jumping the broom is an African American tradition that was brought on during the slavery times because it was all they had to signify their marriages.
Post # 12
Regarding the meaning of breaking the glass, there are NUMEROUS interpretations for why it is done as part of the Jewish wedding tradition. We are having an interfaith ceremony and originally we were choosing wording that explained that, but the rabbi suggested we choose a shorter passage because we’ll be wanting to get outta there!
My favorite reason is that its a superstition to keep bad spirits away. At the wedding the Rabbi will explain it it to temper our joy with sorrow. Its a tradition, so there isn’t anything particularly religious out it, my Fiance says it isn’t offensive.
Post # 13
Lgenz and pcpwedding: it’s a welsh and celtic tradition that dates back to the pre Christian era. It’s a symbol is fertility and fidelity.
I didn’t actually know it was an AfricanAmerican tradition.
Ok done thread jacking
Post # 14
@NCPwedding: I actually thought it originated in Wales.
Post # 15
@KatyElle: IT was actually originated in wales i just read but then became a more popular tradition during the slave trade times in Ghana, Africa.
Anyone can jump the broom however beause its symbolism is to sweep away evil spirits that could cause negativity on your marriage.
However, breaking the glass probably not such a good idea.
Post # 16
Jumping the broom was also popular during the Middle Ages in England, because it was a symbol of the work of an unspecialised labourer. People would therefore use them to perform both “legitimate” and “illigitimate” marriages. In fact, in the 1800s then “jumping the broom” was discussed in parliament in uncomplimentary terms… it was associated with the poor and crinimal classes (which could at least partially have been a racial slur, seeing as it was associated with Celtic weddings, and Celts were discriminated against). Like the others, I only realised it had an African American link recently… in the UK it is associated with paganism and Celtic traditions.
Breaking the glass though… now that’s quite specific to Judaism. I’m not so sure about the symbolism there…