(Closed) Okay to get something not on registry?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

don’t do it!!! although it seems nice, she needs the stuff she registered for, even if it seems unpersonal. Buy up all of her bathroom stuff and put it in a basket for her or something.

Post # 4
16195 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Could you perhaps buy her one thing she is registered for, and then a book to go with it? Not sticking to the registry is risky when it’s someone you don’t know as well. I think that would be a good compromise, though. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
1493 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@judithsr: I’m an off registry kind of person. Building a child’s book collection is a great idea. I also knit baby blankets, so I’m perpetually off registry for baby stuff. Another thought is pick an item and see if it pops up on a flash sale site which will be tons cheaper. I’ve collected a lot of baby gifts that way.

Post # 6
171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I love the idea of books, but it’s true that your friend is going to need the things on her registry – even the impersonal ones. I like to buy my friends something practical from the registry and something personal off registry. You should include a book with a registry gift.

Post # 8
7494 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

As someone who is having a baby shower thrown for her THIS weekend, I would say that books are the exception.  I would be very happy to receive extra books (you can never have too many in my opinion!).  However, other baby items and clothing may not be needed and should be avoided unless registered for.  Just my opinion!

Post # 9
121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Could you buy a gift certificate to the place they were registered at? They probably won’t get everything on their list and will have to buy some essentials out of pocket and a gift certificate would help.

Books are a good idea, we didn’t register for any, but got about 4 of them and can’t wait to read them to our son…once he gets a little older.

Post # 10
1927 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I actually think it would be a great idea to gift her some books.

Post # 11
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I just had my baby shower… and I would have prefered if more people went with the registry. It may seem boring, but we need that stuff, that’s why we registered for it!

Post # 12
338 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ive been stalking my registry for weeks lol…and Im still missing sooo much stuff. I know that the registry can sometimes be impersonal, but its still stuff that we need.

So i think that a book and something from the registry is a good idea ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Oh yes yes, get books! thats so sweet.  Sure she needs stuff on her registry but I agree sometimes its just plain awkward to buy the things that are in your price range.  Do you really know her well enough to buy Nipple shields….Awkward.  I know a lot of ppl are strict “STICK WITH MY REGISTRY”  but thats selfish.  A gift is given from the heart, and if you find something that you think is so sweet and lovely than by all means give that.  Showers are for people to share the love and joy of an event, wedding/baby, not as gift grubbing event.   Please buy what you are comfortable giving.

Post # 14
601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

and i’m having my shower this weekend, and while it would be nice to receive items off the registry I am just so happy so many of my friends are carving out time to come celebrate with me.  I still feel a registry is a guide and who knows someone may come up with an item that is AWESOME that I never knew about or thought about.  ๐Ÿ™‚  great chance to listen and learn from other ppls experiences.


Post # 15
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I had a shower for one of my close friends a few months ago, and she told me she actually loved her off registry stuff because it was stuff she hadn’t thought of, and was tried and true from the other moms in attendance. I think books are a great gift for anyone, I would give some of your own childhood favourites growing up ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 16
1328 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

FI’s cousin is pregnant, and I just had my bridal shower, so I fully realize how nice it is to get things from the registry.


I bought 90% of my budget on the registry and then spent the last 10% on two little baby clothes because i LOVE baby clothes!  =)


I vote go registry all the way, because it’s a sure fire hit that she will love it!

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