Post # 1
I have a very large family, and a small venue for our wedding & reception (everything is at one place). I would love for my extended family (1st cousins) to come to the wedding, but there is just no room. Is it impolite to invite them to the dance/reception only? If so, how would you word this on the invite? We are planning on serving appetizers at the dance, so there will be some food available. Dance should start around 7.
Post # 3
I’m confused. What do you mean there will be some food available? Isn’t that obvious since it’s the reception?
Post # 4
Very, very impolite. You’re saying “I like you enough to want you to at my wedding and hope you bring a present, but I don’t like you enough to pay for your dinner.”
Post # 5
In the U.S.? I’m going to say no, it’s not okay. I’m sorry!
Post # 6
This is ok in some country’s but no not really in the US. If you can’t make room for someone to watch your ceremony you shouldn’t have them come to your reception. If you want to celebrate with a larger group you should do a separate deal later like a backyard bbq or something.
Post # 7
Not okay…I wouldn’t bother to come (or send a gift!) knowing I was a second-rate guest. Better to not invite at all than to invite to half the event- it’d seem like a gift grab to me!
Post # 8
Ehhhhhhhhhhh…. Nope. Sorry!
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Not in the US. If you want to include these people, you need to change venues.
Post # 10
That’s definitely not ok.
Post # 11
I’m a little confused too….but from what I did understand, no. it sounds very impolite and rude
Post # 12
No. It is not okay. This is called a tiered reception.
Post # 13
@angelalsmith3: No. If you can’t accommodate them don’t invite them.
Post # 14
If you mean you’re not inviting them to dinner at all, then no. That’s just a gift grab. I’d be insulted if I were invited to only the dance portion.
Post # 15
If *someone else* wants to host a reception for you, after the wedding, that involves small bites and dancing, I think that is OK. Lots of people also host receptions for their friends and family after a small destination wedding.
If you are hosting things yourself, then it looks like a gift grab.
I would guess the exception is the typical LDS (Mormon) wedding, where the temple wedding excludes all that don’t have a recommend (even family!). Then they host an open house reception with cake and a receiving line at their ward house later in the day (unless they have to travel far to the temple). It’s not how I would want my wedding, but it’s pretty standard in Utah and the rest of the Jello Belt.