(Closed) Okay to invite to dance/reception NOT ceremony/dinner?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m confused.  What do you mean there will be some food available?  Isn’t that obvious since it’s the reception?

 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Very, very impolite. You’re saying “I like you enough to want you to at my wedding and hope you bring a present, but I don’t like you enough to pay for your dinner.”

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

In the U.S.? I’m going to say no, it’s not okay. I’m sorry!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

This is ok in some country’s but no not really in the US. If you can’t make room for someone to watch your ceremony you shouldn’t have them come to your reception. If you want to celebrate with a larger group you should do a separate deal later like a backyard bbq or something.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Not okay…I wouldn’t bother to come (or send a gift!) knowing I was a second-rate guest. Better to not invite at all than to invite to half the event- it’d seem like a gift grab to me!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Ehhhhhhhhhhh…. Nope. Sorry!

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Not in the US. If you want to include these people, you need to change venues.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

That’s definitely not ok. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m a little confused too….but from what I did understand, no. it sounds very impolite and rude

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

No. It is not okay.  This is called a tiered reception.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@angelalsmith3:  No. If you can’t accommodate them don’t invite them.  

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

If you mean you’re not inviting them to dinner at all, then no.  That’s just a gift grab.  I’d be insulted if I were invited to only the dance portion.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If *someone else* wants to host a reception for you, after the wedding, that involves small bites and dancing, I think that is OK. Lots of people also host receptions for their friends and family after a small destination wedding.

If you are hosting things yourself, then it looks like a gift grab.

I would guess the exception is the typical LDS (Mormon) wedding, where the temple wedding excludes all that don’t have a recommend (even family!). Then they host an open house reception with cake and a receiving line at their ward house later in the day (unless they have to travel far to the temple).  It’s not how I would want my wedding, but it’s pretty standard in Utah and the rest of the Jello Belt.

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