Post # 1
My Fiance and I have been working to make a guest list for our wedding since we are paying for it ourselves. I have a very large family and we decided that we would only invite great aunts and uncles and their children and closer relatives to keep the numbers down. However, his grandmother expected that her cousins and their children would be invited but we had no intention of this since they are further removed in relation to him and he has not seen them in at least four years. She is very upset when we explained this to her. Are we being unreasonable in not wanting to invite her relatives?
Post # 2
I think only invite extended family if you’re close to them. We aren’t inviting some of our first cousins because we haven’t even met them. We also have huge families and we just couldn’t afford to invite them all. If grandma contributes to the wedding then maybe it would be Different
Post # 3
It’s okay to cut your list down: some of your family will not agree with it or understand it, but when it comes down to it if you invite her cousins and their children then you have to invite other cousins and their children. The line has to be drawn somewhere, and if that’s where it is, it’s your wedding, your budget and she is just gonna have to respect it.
Post # 4
You are completely right here. I don’t understand why loved ones would want a couple to start their married life in debt. I’m only inviting immediate family and first cousins. I love some of my 2nd cousins but we aren’t close and haven’t talked in years.