(Closed) Okay to say you don't want to hang w some of FI's friends?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Is it okay to tell your FI that you'd rather not hang out w some of his friends?
    Yes, if you put it nicely and make it clear he can still see them : (50 votes)
    94 %
    No, they are his friends and just part of the package : (3 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2009 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I just tell him they aren’t my favorite and to please have a good time!!

    Unless we are talking great friends from way back, I just let him enjoy without inconveniencing myself.

    Post # 4
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    27 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I skip out on nights out with my SO’s friends all the time. lol. I like most of them well enough but unless my friends are around too, it ends up me sitting around bored to death listening to them talk about the things that they have in common/guy stuff (you know, the reason they are friends in the first place) that I just don’t get into. Plus I think it’s great for him to have time with just his friends to drink and talk sports and Jeeps and whatever, just like I like to have time to shop and goof off and talk wedding with my friends. As long as you don’t always say no I think it’s perfectly fine, especially if they make you uncomfortable. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    3667 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I would just be honest with him, but keep in mind that since they’re a couple, maybe he’s worried about being a third wheel?

    Post # 6
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    2196 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    Of course, you don’t have to hang out with people you don’t want. As long as you aren’t talking smack all the time, being mean, saying he can’t, etc. Then it’s fine.

    Post # 8
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    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @GrumpyPumpkin:  There’s nothing wrong with telling your Fiance that you don’t want to socialize with the couple.  However, it would be a nice gesture on your part to do so every once in awhile, if you think Fiance would enjoy something like that.

    Post # 9
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    646 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    i think it’s ok to tell him how you feel about the couple, and it’s up to him to decide whether he’s gonna be the third wheel or not – maybe he doesn’t feel that way, just let him have a good time then 🙂

    Post # 10
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    2025 posts
    Buzzing bee

    There are certain people my SO doesn’t like that I am friends with, and I don’t push him to hang out with them, and vice versa. That’s okay 🙂 Everybody likes different people for different reasons. We can’t like everyone!

    Post # 11
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    1543 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    depends how good of friends. Be honest with him – i don’t see why you’d have to see them all the time but once in a while – yes. My Fiance isn’t a fan of some of my friends but he’ll still come once in a while.

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