Post # 1
Hey bees! First of thank you in advance I dont know where i would be with out getting feedback from all of you! Ok so here is todays 1st dilemma…. My fiances family are not the type to dress up….like nice jeans and tees is there idea of appropriate attire. We are having a very formal wedding Is it ok or offensive to write in the reception cards that formal attire is required??!?
Post # 3
No, I think a lot of people having more formal weddings but “black tie required” or a nicer “black tie optional” on their reception cards. I think it’s fine and they probably don’t want to show up in jeans if everyone else is in formal attire. I know I would be embarressed.
Post # 4
I think people appreciate being told what the dress code is. At least I always do. One of my friends put “dress to the nines” on her invitations. I thought it was a super cute way of telling people black tie.
Post # 5
Our invitations says: what to wear: please wear black & white or black only
We don’t want to sound demanding, but if 1 person wears a crazy color, they may feel odd.
Maybe “we kindly request our guests to wear formal attire” or something like that?
Post # 6
Etiquette wise, yes this is offensive. Just make the wording and design of your invitation is more formal. On the reception card also put something like, “Please join us for a black tie celebration!” Also, your venue will set the formal tone so give guests the Web site link. Word of mouth with be your biggest friend! lol. If you are really worried about it put something like, “Please be mindful of venue’s dress code,” and link the venue’s dress code or copy and paste. on your wedding Website.
Good luck! =)
Post # 7
Oops, I posted on your other thread. What I had said was, I think the only time it’s technically appropriate is when it’s black tie, and then you would put that on the actual information on the invitation. But I think it would be okay to put “formal attire requested” or “cocktail attire requested”. How formal do you want it to be–tuxes, or nice slacks and a button down?
Post # 8
I was hoping for suits or at least a nice jacket with slacks!
Post # 9
I think I am going to put on ours:
Formal adult event
Hopefully, 2 birds with one stone regarding children and attire.
Post # 10
we relied on word of mouth/ fancyness of invitations. one of my husbands friends wore jeans and a snap up flannel shirt. you might want to tell any likely offenders specifically. He sings with Darling Husband so I know he owns slacks. This still makes me mad. he also knew the groomsmen would be in tuxes. grr.
Post # 11
I think guests DO appreciate being told how to dress. Otherwise, they have to guess and might get it wrong. I think saying “required” is a little strong, though. I like the “dress to the nines” suggestion. Many people enjoy the chance to get dolled up occasionally; don’t assume they’ll hate it!
Post # 12
I’m with hilsy. “Formal attire” or “cocktail attire” would be fine. “Black Tie” suggests that men have to rent a tux.