Post # 1
I’m actually friends with two of them crazy I know. Granted these relationships were a very long time ago and what some might think as not that serious but in The Bahamas we really don’t date much it’s hook up or relationship pretty much. Even though So and I meet young (16 and 19) we’ve had relationships before that. He has two best friends that are females and before me and him got together he tried dating them (at separate times of course lol) and it was agreed that they are better off as friends. Over our long relationship I have became very close to them in fact we act like we are the BFFs lol ( whenever we do get married they will be BM and one will be helping me with planning) and we all help each other out to. A mutual friend of SO and I told me at he admires me so much for that and honestly I never thought much about it because from the get go we all treated each other kind and with respect.
Anyway before I ramble on even more are any of you lovely bees friends with your SO ex?
Post # 3
No, but there’s a big difference when you started dating as teenagers (you were 16 when you started dating and he was 19?). Anytime someone tells me about the boyfriend or girlfriend they had at 16 or 17 (and it ended around that time), I frankly don’t take it too seriously. My husband still has a bunch of pictures from his high school girlfriend in a box, and we’ve looked at them and laughed at them – even the more *affectionate* ones between them. I would not feel that threatened if he were still friends with her.
Later girlfriends, however, were a problem. But, we’re also considerably older and those relationships were serious ones. Part of it’s that those women were also LDR girlfriends, so we’ve never physically met, nor are we likely to do so.
Post # 4
@242beauty: I am absolutely not in contact with any of his exes…and neither is he. I am quite content with things being that way.
Post # 5
I’m not but I do have acquaintance that’s been a long term relationship for about five years. She’s BFF’s with her boyfriend’s ex-wife and at the time he was living with his ex to raise their daughter. From FB updates I can see they recently had a following out and have moved out of the state. I assume that it compromised the friendship but I’m not too sure.
Post # 6
Hell would freeze over before that happened and even then it would pretty much be known I wouldn’t be friends with any of FI’s exes.
Post # 7
I am friends with my husbands ex girlfriend from college. They broke up 15 years ago and maintained a good friendship. I met her when my husband and I started dating over 7 years ago when we were visiting NYC. She let us stay in her apt since she was mostly living at her boyfriends (now husband) place. She is a really cool person and the four of us have a blast when we hang out once or twice a year. We are hoping to visit them again this year, they met up with us in Chicago last year.
Post # 8
I’m not friends with any of his ex-girlfriends because there’s no way I could be friends with her knowing that they have seen each other naked (and worse lol). It’s just too close for comfort.
Post # 9
@CookieCreamCakes: True very true I know some people see it that way and I guess that’s a reason why it was easy to form a friendship with them there is a clear just friends brother or sister relationship one is engaged and has a cute little boy who I’m godmother for lol.
@MrsPanda99: I get it tho because when we took a break to see other people in the past the girl he was with we can’t stand each other lol but the thing is his two female friends that are exes told him that he needs to dump her and get back with me ASAP and ” to stop being a Puss and fix our problems” lol I love those girls.
@IzzyBear: Another thing that made it easier to be friends he never slept with either of them. However over here kids move kinda fast mostly and we don’t really date we talk and if we like each other we’re in a relationship pretty much. Growing up that’s how it was but “dating” is slowly starting to become more of the usual now tho.
Post # 10
I’ve met and got on very well with a couple of his exs but they live to far away to be considered friends.
Strangely two of my exs are reasonably good friends now, they only met because they were both at a party I threw (oh a d they ate both coming to the wedding).
Post # 11
I continue to be a terrible person.
I really dislike all of his exes simply based on the fact that he liked/had crushes on/loved them at some point!
Post # 12
I am very good friends with one of his serious ex’s. They lived together about 10 years ago but she is married now and I am about to be married and I have absolutely no worries about them having any feelings for each other. I am still friends with most of my ex’s. I think its a litle immature when people automatically hate their partners ex’s
Post # 13
I’m not personally because all his ex’s live 2,100 miles away (and so do mine)
but my dad is firends kinda with my stepmoms ex…but I guess they have to be for the kids.
Post # 14
@242beauty: i’ve never actually met any of my dh’s exes. he doesn’t remain friends with them. i do admire your confidence and attitude to be able to accept that your so did indeed have a past. good for you.
my sister had 2 children with her then husband. they divorced and he remarried. the new wife and my sister were very respectful to each other b/c of the children. i admired them both for this. in fact, my sister’s exhusband was killed in a car accident shortly after he remarried and the ladies were there for each other for comfort and support. his new wife was just 7 months pregnant. this was 13 years ago and his widow still sees his children on a regular basis even though she really was only a step-mother to them for just a year. good for her.
Post # 15
They all live in Asia. And his high school/college sweetheart was 15 years ago and she seems batshit crazy.
On the flip, I’m not friends with any of my ex’s current girlfriends…or even my exes. Eff that too lol.
Post # 16
@242beauty: yeah, it would be fine if it was an “innocent” relationship where all they did was kiss or hold hands. But any type of sexual altercations would not be ok with me. Call me insecure, but I would be wondering if he was picturing her naked the whole time haha. I’m sure he feels the same way about me though