(Closed) Old coworker asking for professional assistance?…

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 2
7892 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I would have a secretary let her know you won’t be able to give away that info. 

Post # 3
47382 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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jkat84:  Text her back and tell her that you are not comfortable doing that, and request that she please not approach you again.

If she’s calling from a landline and you can’t text, return the call in the middle of the night and leave a message.

Post # 4
2108 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Yeah… I would definitely not provide that information to her. I am sure that is probably a violation of some no compete clause you have and even if it isn’t, it would not look good to your current company to be giving away that private information. If it was me I would probably just continue to avoid her… but I tend to be an  evasive non-confrontational person. Other’s way of handling the situation is probably better. 

Post # 5
7639 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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jkat84:  Without knowing your line of work, it sounds like she is asking you to do something unethical, and possibly illegal (if it’s a breach of your contract with your current employer).

I suggest you do not return her calls. If she does get through to you, say something along the lines of, “no, I can’t do that”. If pressed, “No, this is work done for my current company, I cannot share it”, then hang up.

Are you a person who has trouble saying “no”? Remember you never have to talk to her again, so if saying “no” upsets her or makes her not like you, there is no harm done.

Post # 6
8943 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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jkat84:  I’d probably just ignore it. She’ll quit calling sooner than later I bet. Another option is to block her number. You’re right to not even consider what she’s asking for. How did she even get your number if you were never fond of her? Is she leaving these messages on your work voicemail? If that’s the case, you could forward them to your boss, HR, or legal and let them deal with it.

Post # 7
6338 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

I would relay the message to her, either directly or through a 3rd party, that you can’t and won’t share work you developed for your employer, as this is not your property but your employer’s.

Post # 8
621 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

I can attest to the fact that this action is illegal.  Sharing of company information (no matter how simple) is against Company policy and the law.  Please contact her back in no uncertain terms that you are prohibited by Company policy to disclose such information and, if she truly wants this, she could contact either your supervisor or company counsel as they are more versed in company policy. 


Post # 10
2668 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

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Pyboo15:  How is she leaving messages? On your voicemail or with a secretary? If it’s with a secretary, can you ask them to pass on a message the next time this ex-coworker calls? If it’s on your voicemail, I think you’re going to have to call her back in order to get her to stop – just tell her that it’s against company policy for you to pass on this information, sorry you can’t help her and hang up.

Post # 11
387 posts
Helper bee

Inform your supervisor and HR. Don’t try to deal with this yourself because she isn’t getting the message. Have them deal with her. 

Post # 12
2803 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

What am I missing here?  Why not just take the call and tell her no? Ignoring her seems so immature, regardless of the reason. If you are worried she might try to convince you, then don’t give her the chance. Just tell her you know why she is calling but you are unable to assist her and that it would be best if she stopped calling. 

Post # 13
197 posts
Blushing bee

I would pick up the phone, call her, and explain to her that I cannot do what she is asking. It seems like the most professional thing to do. After that, if she doesn’t get the hint, hand the issue over to HR or someone higher up.

Post # 15
1431 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

If you have a non-compete, HR should be looped in and aware of the situation. They can send her a letter with the terms of the non-compete which, if broken, may call for legal action. Companies are protective of their creative property and why shouldn’t things like this be transparant with HR?

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