(Closed) Old friends not coming… I know it’s stupid but am so sad :(

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1577 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Awww… I’m sorry you’re feeling this way!  I totally understand though… I’m not as close with my girlfriends that I grew up with anymore, just because none of us live close together anymore.  But in my heart I still feel like we’re really close friends… it would break my heart if they don’t show up for my big day.  :-/

Post # 5
321 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I just wrote a similar post last week! Except in my casse, I never really moved far from home at all! In fact, I still live in the same city…And yes, I know how you feel regarding the RSVPs taking awhile to come back and people so casually saying they cant make it (even when ive made effort to go to their weddings and spent tons on them).  Anyways, some other bee said I was wrong for being upset and that just because i feel one way, doesnt mean they do…So apparently I kind of felt worse after that…I guess its just the way life is sometimes…but I definitely feel the way you feel ….i was worse last week…and today I’m like whatever about it now. If people dont want to come, then so be it…i just want those who really love us to come support us on our big day..

I hope you will feel better soon…dont feel so bad.. you are definitely not alone!

Post # 6
929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I know exactly how you feel, especially the part about feeling too old to have these emotions!  I always knew that not many of my old friends would be able to come because they all live in Canada and the wedding is in Australia, but its still hurting every time i get a BIG FAT NO RSVP.  

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way and I wish i could help…i think sometimes you just have to feel sad for a while, and eventually it will start to bother you less.  I’d come to your wedding for sure if i was invited!!

Post # 7
629 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have been feeling the same way lately, and my invitations aren’t even out yet!  We’re having a small wedding, only inviting about 100 ppl.  I’m expecting about 80 to RSVP yes, but in the back of my mind, I’m sure it’ll be much worse and I’ll be super upset.  I actually had one friend tell me the other day that he can’t come because he already has plans that weekend…my Maid/Matron of Honor informed me that he’s going to a corn maze.  Really?!  You’re missing my wedding for a corn maze?!  UGH.  It’s not going to be easy…but just remember that your best friends and close family will be there, and you’re marrying your best friend so it’ll all be ok.  🙂

Post # 8
487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ve prepared myself for this already. I have moved a lot/had major life changes throughout my life which has made “keeping” friends very difficult. It’s not that we’ve fallen out but we don’t talk/see each other all that much these days if that makes sense. So I’m not expecting all of them to come, especially as I’m having 2 weddings due to being an interracial couple. I definitely don’t expect to see them all at both, that’s for sure!

Myself, I would probably do my best to attend their weddings etc, whatever the distance, but I know there are things that can prevent that from happening so I just try to be understanding. Feeling sad about it is inevitable though – uprooting and moving a lot comes with a lot of feelings of loneliness as it is, and situations like this one just make it feel worse.

I guess all I can say is just try to be forgiving and understanding. Enjoy your day and know that if it was easier for them to get there then they probably would have come. The people that matter most will be there and that’s something to hold tight to 🙂

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