Post # 1
Could use some advice. My SO’s cat (Zee) is about 16 years old and for the past year she has been steadily declining.
The other night Zee gave us a scare when she started howling in pain, panting heavily and drooling. We rushed her to a vet, who detected her irregular heartbeat and said what she experienced was most likely a blood clot in her lungs. It passed, so she is okay now, but it is highly probable that it will happen again. We’d been talking about taking her to the vet within a few days time, because she wasn’t eating but a few bites of her food. The Vet recommended a wet food, which we gave her and she seemed to like. Only a day later and she is less interested in eating it, when she used to eat almost anything.
My SO loves this cat to death. He has had her for nearly 15 years and swears she is the best cat he has ever owned. He was in tears last night because she wasn’t eating much, and swears he will never adopt another cat because she cannot be replaced. I love Zee and will miss her, but I am nowhere near as attached to her as he is, so I am just trying to be supportive of him and help him make the right decisions for her so she doesn’t suffer.
I wish I knew the right things to say, or how I should advise him. The Vet says that so long as Zee is interested in her food and is taking the meds we give her, her quality of life will be good, but if she develops another blood clot it could kill her or cause her a lot of pain. Has anybody else been in a similar situation with an older cat? What did you do?
Here is our snuggly beasty:
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
All I can say is I have two kitties AKA fur babies of my own (ages 14 and 4 respectively) and my heart goes out to you. *hug*
Post # 3
nowyouareaghost : I think your vet is spot on. I’ve had to say goodbye to a few dogs (no cats) and you really just watch them to see how their quality of life is. If they are in too much pain or declining in such a way that you know they can’t be happy anymore, it’s time to say goodbye. But if those meds (blood thinners??) are helping and she’s generally happy and eating, then you get more time and be thankful you get more days. Making that decision is terribly painful, but just know it’s best for her when it’s time. Not best for you, but best for her. And hugs to you and your snuggly kitty!!
Post # 4
I am currently in a similar situation. My cat was given to me for my 8th birthday, and he is turning 17 soon. This past year we’ve had frequent vet appointments and one serious scare where I brought him to the emergency room at night.
Our vet is very supportive and honest with us. We realize that his time is coming, but for now he seems happy and not in any pain. If that changes though, I believe we will put him down. It causes both me and my Fiance so much heartache. But I know he’s lived a good life, and has been loved fiercley by so many people.
It helped me a little to have time to process what’s happening. When we had our E-room scare, I was hysterical and I was not ready for it. That was a few months ago though. I’ve had the time to calm down, be able to come to terms with everything
It’s definitely going to be hard, and I will go through a serious morning process. I would say the best thing for you to do be able to lean on each other. Make sure you spend as much time cuddling your beautiful kitty as possible, and try to give him the best kitty life possible. <3 <3 <3
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snowflake8 : Thank you. <3
RedHeadKel : Yeah, blood thinners. The meds are 1/4th of a baby aspirin every three days. The Vet was afraid it might make Zee’s stomach react badly and decrease her appetite even more, so it is the lowest possible dosage. We only want to do what is best for her, so we’re waiting and watching to see if she will improve. Thank you, it is reassuring to know we’re doing the right thing.
TrinaMay13 : Oh man, I feel for you. I thought the one scare was bad enough, I hope we don’t have to go through several. Thank you for your advice, we will definately be spending more time with her.
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2017 - Nepal
Oh bee I feel your pain as our dog was diagnosed with congestive heart failure 3 weeks ago. Has the vet given you an exact diagnosis or is further testing needed? I took our dog into the emergency vet due to abdominal swelling and after many tests, and seeing a cardiologist they also confirmed she had fluid build up in her lungs. She is in congestive heart failure on both the left and right side. I will say though that she has been great the last 3 weeks on medication. Her appetite has increased tremendously and overall is doing really well. All we can do is just hope she remains comfortable as long as possible. What is hopeful is that these types of conditions can be managed with medication to extend and increase their quality of life.
Post # 7
I had a fairly similar situation a few years ago. My cat will be 20 in July, but since she was about 16-17 years old, she developed hyperthyroidism. She’s on medication that she takes daily (she eats them via Pill Pockets, so no stress for her), and that manages the hyperthyroidism well. In the past few years, she’s gone deaf and her walking is a little shifty from arthritis; however, she still eats, drinks, and uses the litter box just fine. She seems pretty happy, so as long as she’s not in pain and has a good quality of life, I figure she’ll just keep on keeping on.
If I were in your position, I’d see how things go. But if your kitty gets another blood clot, I’d consider that a sign that it’s time to say goodbye for her sake. You wouldn’t want her going through that repeatedly. Old cats will have medical issues, though, so I wouldn’t let one incident alarm you too much.
On a side note, if you’re going through a short period of time when your cat isn’t eating normally (meds can descrease their appetite), you can supplement by giving them plain Pedialyte. When one of my cats was on antibiotics, I had to give her some a couple of times a day with a baby medicine dropper.
Post # 8
Thank you all for your kind words and advice.
Sadly, Zee had another blood clot yesterday and we took her to the Emergency Vet. She seemed alright by the time we got her there, but she hadn’t been acting like herself and had stopped eating anything. My SO decided it was time, as it seemed like she was only just getting by. We said our goodbyes and held her as she passed. It was honestly one of the hardest things I have ever had to do.
My poor SO has been quietly grieving, but I am so much more emotional than I thought I would be. She used to follow me around the house and greet me at the door with a happy “Meow” when I got home. Our tiny condo somehow feels huge and empty without her. SO couldn’t sleep last night, he is used to having her next to him in the bed. I hope in time it won’t hurt so much.
Post # 9
nowyouareaghost : Aw, I’m really sorry for your loss. It IS the hardest thing you may ever have to do in life. It’s very painful. And yes, it’s true, time will really help, but for a while it will be rough. I hate that void of your pet not being around and following you and being in their normal spots. You know? Yeah, it sucks.
Post # 10
RedHeadKel : Thank you. I have never been present when any of my other pets passed away, for various reasons, and I was surprised by just how difficult it was to be with her at the end.
Post # 11
I am so very sorry for your loss :'(
I still cry at times for my kitty who passed away 4 years ago at age 16. When the time is right consider adopting a homeless kitty in her honor. I did, and it helps heal your heart.