Post # 62
prefacing this by saying i haven’t read replies to the OP…:P
I am 30 years old. Darling Husband is 36. he’ll be 37 at our wedding and I will turn 31 two months later. we are planning on TTC (trying to conceive) immediately after our wedding.
In all honesty I am SO happy that I didn’t have kids in my 20’s. Mainly because A. I didn’t have the right man or relationship emotionally to care for one and B. financially it wouldn’t have been a good decision either. I enjoyed my 20’s WITHOUT kids and am very happy I’ve waited.
Some people do good with having kids young – one of my best friends started when she was 21…and some do good waiting til they’re 38 like a cousin of mine.
It’s a personal decision and those out there who try to butt their nose in to tell you when and how to live your life should just butt out (this is to anyone who may have that issue).. 🙂
Post # 63
I had my son when I was 20 but there were women well into their 40’s and early 50’s that were expecting at the doctors office i went too…So, I think that you can have children whenever you want to…I really don’t think children will realize how old their parents are because they just love their parents regardless…
Post # 64
- Wedding: May 2010 - Philippe Park
I don’t think being an “old mom” is bad. I wouldn’t want to be an older mom, but I also don;t want to be a super young mom. I’m a firm believer in to each his own.
However, my mom had me at 26 and Mr. R’s mom had him at 35. Now, to me, 35 doesn’t really sound old to have kids, but compared to my mom, his mom just seems so out of touch. My mom e-mails, text messages, drives a BMW with handsfree phone/onstar/gps. She’s right there keeping up with all of our technology whereas Mr. R’s mom is scared to plug a USB into her “mother board” (that’s what she calls her computer) for fear of breaking the computer and she wouldn’t know what the hell a text message was if it popped up on her phone. My (younger) mom adapts to technology and enjoys it, while Mr. R’s mom seems jaded, scared, and frustrated about it.
That said, I never ever want to be that out of touch with my own children and their generation. I think being out of touch like that is okay and even expected, if you’re a grandparent, but not for mothers. If we have kids, we plan on having them when I’m between 25-32. I’ll be done at 32, and if I don’t have kids by then, then I won’t have them.
Plus, we’re also unusually financially stable for being twenty-somethings (he’s 25, I’m 22) so we’ll be able to get all of our traveling and adventures out in the next 3,4,5 or so years. We definitely want our wanderlust out of our systems before we have kids, but we stil also want to be younger parents. Luckily for us, it looks like it will work out that way.