Old, New, Borrowed, and Blue "Rules"

posted 10 months ago in Traditions
Post # 2
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I always think it has to be worn on the bride. So veil, dress, under garments, jewellery, shoes, and accessories is how I’d get my old, new, borrowed, blue. 

  • This reply was modified 10 months ago by  happyeyesbride. Reason: Missed a word
Post # 3
252 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2020 - City, State

I think they have to be worn or carried.

I do think one item could check multiple boxes (eg, you could borrow something blue).

I do think the borrowed thing needs to be actually borrowed (not rented and must be returned), and I believe from my research it’s supposed to be borrowed from a happily married woman so her good luck rubs off on the bride.

I don’t think they need to be visible (ie they could be undergarments).

The old thing I personally feel should be something you’ve owned since before you were engaged or something that’s been inherited. Or you could borrow something old.

The new thing should be something made or purchased specifically for the wedding. The first time it’s worn publicly should be by the bride at the wedding.

Just my $0.02.

Post # 4
2858 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

This is what I was told;

the something old should come from the brides mother or maternal grandmother

the new should be brought for the wedding

the something borrowed should be from a married friend and returned after the wedding 

the something blue should be worn by the bride not carried 

Post # 5
4660 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

narolepsy :  I did all four but not the sixpence. Nor was I the first to buy something (apparently it’s lucky if the bride makes the first purchase after you get married).

The borrowed definitely needs to be returned. I used to feel that they all need to be worn but I think carried is fine.


Post # 6
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

My something old will be my nan’s engagement ring, my something new will be well the dress itself, my borrowed will be a friends pearl necklace, which is also old and I’m hoping my something blue will be my dress.

my friend who married last year, her something old was a set of earrings she’d brought from her first pay check so only about 15 years old but old to her as she rarely wore them. Her something borrowed was a diamond solitaire pendant from the high end jewellers she now works in, which I guess counts as rented.

Post # 7
5732 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

I don’t think there are any set rules but imo renting doesn’t count as ‘borrowed’ and I would say everything needs to relate to the bride so something new used in the ceremony wouldn’t count. 

Post # 8
108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I assume those rules are for the bride?

My veil is my something old as it was my sisters original veil from 18 years ago.

My something borrowed is my grandmother’s pearl necklace 

My something new is my tiara and a ring my mom is giving me.

And  I will have blue in my hair as well as blue gem stones on my tiara and veil. I will also have blue Rose’s in my bouquet. Our colors are blue and green.

Post # 9
558 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

My own personal rules for myself are that I have to be wearing it (I’m not carrying anything, otherwise I’d count that) and it has to be during the ceremony. I still don’t know what I’m borrowing yet, it might end up just being nail polish from my bff lol! 

Post # 10
1117 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard

I had almost everything in one. I wore sapphire and diamond jewellery borrowed from a family member that she had for awhile so it was both old/blue/borrowed. I wore pearls for the reception that were a wedding gift from one of my closest friends so that was new. So was my dress if we are talking things I wore to the ceremony only. The only thing I forgot was the coin in the shoe. 

Post # 11
12 posts
  • Wedding: June 2019
  • Borrowing means giving it back again.
  • Old means I have used or worn this before.
  • New means completely unused or never worn.
  • Blue, any shade (but not teal)

These are my own rules for me. Have no view on what others are doing.

At the moment, I think I have an old pair of earrings, a new dress, borrowing a necklace, and blue shoes. If I wasn’t doing blue shoes, I would have done blue toenail varnish (and might do that anyway).

Post # 12
435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2020

For me:

Borrowed: definitely needs to be given back and renting doesn’t count as you’re paying for it and it’s not personal.
Old: something antique or something I’ve had for a long time.
New: something I have bought for the wedding but can wear again.
Blue: anything as long as it is blue and not aqua / turquoise.

My current plan is a ring I wear daily for old. Earrings or shoes for new. My mother’s necklace for borrowed. And blue underwear?
I will also wear a silver ‘coin’ in my shoe (as we don’t have sixpence in Aus).

ETA: I also feel like they should be 4 separate items.

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