Post # 1
We’re shooting to invite 200 people to our wedding, but right now are about over that by 40 people. Most of what is taking up the list is of course, the plus 1s!
We have alot of single friends our age (late 20s, early 30s), so we are definetly going to give them plus ones. But what about people in my family who are divorced, widowed or just older? They will know TONS of people there, so its not like the will be lonely. But my father said we should give the option of the plus 1 to them as well, and let them decide. Most likely they wont bring one – cause I have never seen them bring dates to other weddings….but if they DO to mine, i could be over budget!
What do you think I should do?
Post # 3
Instead of singling out a specific age group, perhaps it would be better to apply a strict standard to all plus ones? Maybe limit the guest option only to those in actual relationships, regardless of age?
Post # 4
yeah, i cant really do that though. i have too many single friends. we have 16 people in our bridal party – and while my family will know TONS of other family, some of them only know one other person there besides the two of us….so i have to give them plus ones.
Post # 5
I just wanted to say, you don’t “have” to give plus 1s to anyone. We have a fair few single friends coming to our celebrations and we haven’t given them a plus one. They might know 1 other person at the wedding but they still have something in common with everyone there, they’re there to celebrate our marriage. I have no doubt that they’ll get spoken to and have a good time.
If you’re really against limiting your plus 1s then I suggest only giving them to people who are in relationships and who won’t know anyone else and not giving them to single family members or people who will know a lot of the other guests.
Post # 6
okay let me rephrase! 🙂
i WANT to give our young single friends plus ones hahaha… 😉
I guess there is no right answer!
Post # 7
Hehe, fair enough. I go with what I said 2nd then. Only give them out to people in relationships and your single friends who won’t know anyone and see if that cuts your guest list down some. And then stop adding to your guestlist! 😉 Guest lists are so easy to balloon out of control.
Post # 8
They might know 1 other person at the wedding but they still have something in common with everyone there, they’re there to celebrate our marriage.
You know the people involved, so personality wise that may be fine. But I just have to mention that as a very introverted person this would make me extremely uncomfortable. I have come to HATE social situations where I am expected to mingle with people I don’t know or barely know. It comes up often for me with a non-profit group that I helped to start- so obviously I have things in common with the people there, but I still hate going and will stay as short as possible before leaving. It is much easier for me to attend an event with Fiance or a friend. It calms me. Otherwise it is kind of a panic situation for me.
It would not matter to me how happy I was for the bride as she is going to be busy most of the day, so if I got an invite to come alone, I would probably decline.
Post # 9
edgypeanuts – yes, i am the same way…thats why i want to make sure the people who would be “left out”, to put it, will have someone to have a good time with as well.
like, my 60 year old aunt will have a ball dancing with her 10 cousins she knows that are there, i dont see any reason she needs to bring another person who know one knows for no reason!
This makes my head spin! haha. Unfortunately, im not one of those mad people who keeps adding to my guestlist – i just have a huge family! 🙂
so, im leaning toward takng away the plus ones if they are for people that would be fine there alone. i think thats fair!