(Closed) Older people being rude to me because of my age :/ (vent)

posted 7 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 17
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917 posts
Busy bee

Calm down young ones, you’ll give yourself wrinkles Wink.

Joking! I’m 25 and experience/d the same thing you have too, especially when I was 20 and working in a predominately male industry. Some producers used to talk down to me, I’d bite my tongue, kick arse at my job and this earnt their respect, which is when I becamse their “go to” person and they were absolutely heart broken when I left the department and later the company. My best advice is to keep being you, keep kicking butt at your job and if it gets to the point where you REALLY can’t tolerate it anymore, say something, as polite as possible. 

Post # 18
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3638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@krayzay87:  I do think that this is the best advice, thank you for reminding me of it. Thank goodness we have the Bee to vent on.

Post # 20
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470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’m 23 and experience both sexism and “ageism” regularly. I wok with a team of four men plus me, I’m the youngest by 10 years. It happens all the time – some colleagues do it in a passive aggressive way, some are just ignorant. In meetings some of our clients ask if they can “talk to a grown up now” or do the passive aggressive thing and call me sweetheart despite my asking them not to. Honestly, I’ve learnt to ingore the ignorant idiots and them assign aggressive and deliberate ones get what they deserve 😉 

Post # 21
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429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

When I was a teenager, I’d stop at this one gas station on the way home from school and EVERY SINGLE TIME some creepy-ass old man would come up to me and offer to help me with my gas.  like wtf?  I knew what I was doing, I’d been driving for a while by that point!  It got really annoying, so I started stopping by either the gas station closest to the school or the one closest to home (depending on how much gas I had, since it was a half-hour drive!)

 

I also see some really shitty attitudes toward teenagers as well, and even kids, that they’re all stupid and mean and annoying.  Well ffs, they’re still growing and might really not know better.  You’re not teaching them anything by being an asshat to them, other than that you’re an asshat who likes to pick on kids and teens.

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee

@MissZeppelin:  I have a story where I let it get to me (I normally don’t) and essentially unleashed in the rudest way possible.

A blonde cashier lectured me, “Statistically younger marriages are more likely to end in divorce.”

I snapped back, “Statistically, blondes get skin cancer easier than others.” and walked off.

Post # 23
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385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@MissZeppelin:  In your story it sounded like when you didn’t react, and went over to the computer to email the file, that it might have appeared to him that you had dismissed him and were ignoring him.  I know it’s just one example, but maybe there’s a difference in communication style between you and your older co-workers?

Post # 26
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52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I remember going through that when I was in my early 20’s and how rage-provoking it can be. I’ve always prided myself on being intelligent and mature, yet when I graduated college and entered the work force I was routinely treated like an imbecile. UGH!!!! I know it’s a small consolation now, but it really does get better in time. 

Post # 27
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1837 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

idk this doesn’t really sound like it had to do with your age; more like that the guy was just a jerk.  i actually don’t feel like I experience this too much even tho I’m 27 and look like I’m 18 tops.  I do get a lot of patient’s parents at work asking how old I am but I think it’s usually just out of curiousity

Post # 28
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@mistress_anne:  Sometimes, frankly, this is sexism.  Older guys almost never accept that younger women can manage technology, or cars, or anything else like that.

For real. I’m 27 and I still get this. Take my car in to the shop. “Oh, you need new brakes.” No, I don’t. Just change my fucking oil. “Your brake pads are pretty worn down.” No, they’re not. Oil change. “Well…” MY BRAKES WERE LITERALLY CHANGED A MONTH AGO. 

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@vorpalette:  OMG that would be rage provoking!  They’re not just talking down, they’re trying to take advantage of you.  Jerks 🙁

Post # 30
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2375 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’d actually say it’s less rudeness/sexism and more a communication problem.  Had I been approached with the same request, I would have clarified with a “Did you just need the presentation we just covered, or did you need a copy of the previous presentations as well?”  Once I had my answer, I ALWAYS acknowledge the person with something like “Sure, I’ll send it right now”.  If you don’t respond, the person will think that you’re ignoring them or that you have no idea what you’re doing. 

 

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