Post # 1
I am getting married in roughly 10 months, and my fiance has always insisted that his brother be the ringbearer ( even casually mentioning it when we first got together 3 years ago). The problem I have with this is that his brother will be almost 15 by the time we get married. I told him about how the ring bearer is usually a lot younger, and talked about his brother maybe being a groomsman, but he just keeps insisting that he wants him as his ring bearer, and not as any type of groomsmen because he is too young ( he doesn’t like the idea of a junior groomsman), I finally told him ok, fine, if that is the one thing he wants in the wedding then we would work it out. The question I have now is, does anyone know of a way to maybe making the role a bit more age friendly? Any help would be greatly appreciated!
Post # 3
I was a flower girl at the age of 23. I had wanted to be a flower girl for years and years and finally a friend let me do it since they had no small children in their familes.
I fully went to town on it..had an adult sized flower girl dress made…flowers in the hair…dropping rose petals etc. It was awesome.
One of the perks of an older flower girl/ring bearer is less risk of a child stealing the show or causing a scene.
Perhaps instead of carrying a pillow he carries the ring box/boxes. It would be a little more grown up but still representative of the position.
Also….just to be logical….when it comes to a junior groomsman vs ring bearer..the only difference I see is a title. It isnt best man vs ring bearer. He can still do all the groomsman things but just hold the ring bearer title.
Post # 4
I’m with IRan2Day. Instead of a pillw give him something more stately, like one of those TO Have and To Hold orbs or an elegent box. He can then carry the rings (a bit more trustworthy than a small child. Dress him like the men in the wedding party and have him walk down before the ladies instead of with the flower girls which will assoicate him more with the men.
Post # 5
Those are both really good ideas. Thank you both! I have never heard of those to have and to hold orbs, and I had never even thought of a box. I will have to look into those.
Post # 6
I’m jealous! I wanted my FH’s best friend to be our ring bearer (our groomsman and Maid/Matron of Honor are strictly family) but FH nixed the idea. He thought it was silly. I thought it was cute!
FYI his best friend is 30. 🙂
and I totally stole the idea from Real Simple Weddings. One of the brides in the issue they did with Crate and Barrel had her adult cousin do it.
Post # 7
Well it’s good to know that I am not the only one who has ever thought of doing this, hehe.
Also, I meant to tell iran2day, being a flowergirl and going all out DOES sound awesome 🙂
Post # 8
Seeral of the Bees have used the "To Have & To Hold" Orbs and Weddingbee has had them as give aways. They are mdae by a seller on Etsy and are really charming.
Post # 9
I never thought the idea of entrusting a ring with a child was an intelligent one–Its your wedding! (Just dont make him wear short pants!)