Omfg stfu, I'm NOT pregnant!!

posted 3 years ago in No Kids
Post # 2
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5566 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

ksn1219 :  

what I don’t understand is that many people struggle to get pregnant and suffer losses and those comments would be incredibly painful to someone suffering in silence 

I got pregnant immediately, the first cycle off bc, but I was still on ttc boards and such. It was really enlightening for me, I don’t ask unless someone brings it up themselves. I even hesitate with obviously pregnant women because when I started to gain weight YEARS before I was pregnant, someone asked me when the baby was due.

I thought we all knew to be better than that.

I wish they showed empathy for you being sick instead of joking about pregnancy!

Post # 3
Hostess
8723 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

ksn1219 :  Tell me about it. I had to take the day sick the other week as had thrown up and as an office manager know the reprecussions of bringing a sickness bug to work. The next day one of the ladies I worked with (I am her line manager) asked me if I was pregnant. It was so rude – like maybe I am and I don’t want anyone knowing? I hate people ask that. You don’t know what is going on in someone elses life. They may indeed be pregnant, they may be infertile, they maybe were just a bit sick!!!!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I get this from every woman in my family the moment I mention I’m sick. It’s SO annoying. Sometimes I even find myself mentioning casually how I have cramps from my period or something so they know it’s not because I’m pregnant, which is ridiculous! They’ve been doing it for years but since we got married it is every single time. Then my mother goes “you better not be, not yet”. Um, excuse me? What if I was and I was just trying to blow it off until we were ready to tell people? People are ridiculous!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

For a woman of fertile age everything is an indication you’re pregnant. Gained weight? Pregnant. Feeling sick? Pregnant? Headache? Pregnant? Even if you drank 2 bottles of wine the night before? Still pregnant. You have a vomiting bug and your whole family has had it aswell? Nope, pregnant. 🙄

When the vomiting bugs start going around work I really hope I don’t get hit with them because there’s so many people saying “you’re next” or “when are you going to have a baby” that if I get sick it’ll just start a rumour.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2021 - City, State

Oh man, I hate this at the doctor the most – my medical records say I’m steralised, it’s like they don’t even read the bloody thing.

“I’ve had a fever for 5 days” 

“when was your last period, is there a chance you can be pregnant”

“no, I got steralised 5 years ago”

“oh…”

*does actual medical tests*

Post # 7
Hostess
8723 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

whoswho :  Bloody hell – sounds like you need a new doctor!

Post # 8
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4121 posts
Honey bee

ksn1219 :  Because you posted this on social and media it’s during child bearing age, I’m not surprised that people would assume this. I do this too sometimes but I usually keep it to myself unless it’s someone SUPER close who I feel comfortable saying something to. I don’t think people meant anything bad. If anything, their excited (?). And I think you will have instances when it will happen again and you can’t control it. If it really bothers you that much, perhaps you should think twice about posting info on FB (not trying to be snippy).

Post # 9
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656 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Ive literally just been bloated from being on my period and people at work have asked if I’m pregnant. Like wtf thanks guys -_- 

Post # 11
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2005 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

This is one of my biggest pet peeves. We are allowed to be sick. Also, what if I don’t want kids? Or can’t? But no matter what, being sick every now and then is part of life. Don’t ever assume it’s because a woman is pregnant. 

Post # 12
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4121 posts
Honey bee

ksn1219 :  It happens because you’re married and many people around you are probably getting pregnant. This happens to me too sometimes but usually, I just laugh it off with them. Like I said, you can’t really control what people will say. As long as they are not being blatantly rude, not much you can do except tell them I’m not pregnant and you’d appreciate if they don’t bring it up again. 

ETA: People shouldn’t always blurt it out but it’s just something that people wonder naturally. I’m just giving you a different POV.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

araebo5585 :  OMG yes! I was on the fence with TTC for a couple of years, and anytime someone would ask I’d get soooo irritated because I felt like it was always making me second guess how I was feeling about TTC. Now that we are actually TTC only a couple of my close girlfriends actually know. We haven’t even told our parents, and now that it’s been almost a year every single time someone asks I seriously want to cry.

Post # 14
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4244 posts
Honey bee

socalgirl1689 :  Maybe other people should think twice before they post invasive and personal comments about someone else.

Post # 15
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6628 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

ksn1219 :  This fascinates me.  No one has ever told me I was pregnant no matter what was going on (aside from say the ER trying to make sure I’m not a lying liar when I had kidney stones and the like – yeah, still a virgin then, lol).  Even when I did get pregnant this year, when I announced it I was told “thought so… you stopped talking about it so either you were or you couldn’t and we didn’t mention it.”  I did have a coworker tell me I was glowing last year, but in reference to being married – she hasn’t even noticed I’m expecting yet, haha.

some people are just thoughtless.  I’d say either don’t bother with that line of chatter on FB anymore or point out that it’s inconsiderate to others and you’d appreciate it if people didn’t comment in that manner anymore (maybe privately though and personally I’d find it off-putting, but that’s my problem)

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