Post # 1
Why can’t women just be sick without a million people questioning/saying you’re pregnant?!
I struggle with taking pills and usually gag during the process. I even passed out a couple of weeks ago… but this morning I gagged during my morning routine and then when I went to take a bite of my breakfast I felt even more sick. So I ended up just giving it to my dog lol. I said something about it on fb and have had 6 people tell me I am pregnant… like that never even crossed my mind! I know we are in the south and people are already on their 3rd or 4th kid at the age of 25, but damnit. We don’t plan on having kids for 3-5 more years but apparently people can’t accept the fact that some people actually wait to have kids. SHOCKER!
Done with my morning rant…
Post # 2
what I don’t understand is that many people struggle to get pregnant and suffer losses and those comments would be incredibly painful to someone suffering in silence
I got pregnant immediately, the first cycle off bc, but I was still on ttc boards and such. It was really enlightening for me, I don’t ask unless someone brings it up themselves. I even hesitate with obviously pregnant women because when I started to gain weight YEARS before I was pregnant, someone asked me when the baby was due.
I thought we all knew to be better than that.
I wish they showed empathy for you being sick instead of joking about pregnancy!
Post # 3
ksn1219 : Tell me about it. I had to take the day sick the other week as had thrown up and as an office manager know the reprecussions of bringing a sickness bug to work. The next day one of the ladies I worked with (I am her line manager) asked me if I was pregnant. It was so rude – like maybe I am and I don’t want anyone knowing? I hate people ask that. You don’t know what is going on in someone elses life. They may indeed be pregnant, they may be infertile, they maybe were just a bit sick!!!!
Post # 4
I get this from every woman in my family the moment I mention I’m sick. It’s SO annoying. Sometimes I even find myself mentioning casually how I have cramps from my period or something so they know it’s not because I’m pregnant, which is ridiculous! They’ve been doing it for years but since we got married it is every single time. Then my mother goes “you better not be, not yet”. Um, excuse me? What if I was and I was just trying to blow it off until we were ready to tell people? People are ridiculous!
Post # 5
For a woman of fertile age everything is an indication you’re pregnant. Gained weight? Pregnant. Feeling sick? Pregnant? Headache? Pregnant? Even if you drank 2 bottles of wine the night before? Still pregnant. You have a vomiting bug and your whole family has had it aswell? Nope, pregnant. 🙄
When the vomiting bugs start going around work I really hope I don’t get hit with them because there’s so many people saying “you’re next” or “when are you going to have a baby” that if I get sick it’ll just start a rumour.
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2021 - City, State
Oh man, I hate this at the doctor the most – my medical records say I’m steralised, it’s like they don’t even read the bloody thing.
“I’ve had a fever for 5 days”
“when was your last period, is there a chance you can be pregnant”
“no, I got steralised 5 years ago”
*does actual medical tests*
Post # 7
whoswho : Bloody hell – sounds like you need a new doctor!
Post # 8
ksn1219 : Because you posted this on social and media it’s during child bearing age, I’m not surprised that people would assume this. I do this too sometimes but I usually keep it to myself unless it’s someone SUPER close who I feel comfortable saying something to. I don’t think people meant anything bad. If anything, their excited (?). And I think you will have instances when it will happen again and you can’t control it. If it really bothers you that much, perhaps you should think twice about posting info on FB (not trying to be snippy).
Post # 9
Ive literally just been bloated from being on my period and people at work have asked if I’m pregnant. Like wtf thanks guys -_-
Post # 10
socalgirl1689 : I posted on fb because I have posted several times about my dog eating my food and getting his protein… Ive jokingly posted about my dog eating my tuna and advocado and trying to get his gains just like me and his dad, so him eating my eggs this morning was along the same lines. The thought of being pregnant or anyone thinking I was because I ended up giving my breakfast to my dog, NEVER crossed my mind.
I have several people in my friends that are struggling or have lost their babies, so it’s crazy people just always say stuff like this. I don’t understand why we just can’t feel like shit on some days. A couple of years ago I also had a woman who had 6 kids, tell me I was glowing, I about lost my shit on her. And like I said in my op, I passed out a couple of weeks ago. When I called a couple of family members freaking out because it was a terrifying experience for me and Darling Husband, the first thing they all asked was if I was pregnant. Not if I was okay or anything.
Post # 11
This is one of my biggest pet peeves. We are allowed to be sick. Also, what if I don’t want kids? Or can’t? But no matter what, being sick every now and then is part of life. Don’t ever assume it’s because a woman is pregnant.
Post # 12
ksn1219 : It happens because you’re married and many people around you are probably getting pregnant. This happens to me too sometimes but usually, I just laugh it off with them. Like I said, you can’t really control what people will say. As long as they are not being blatantly rude, not much you can do except tell them I’m not pregnant and you’d appreciate if they don’t bring it up again.
ETA: People shouldn’t always blurt it out but it’s just something that people wonder naturally. I’m just giving you a different POV.
Post # 13
araebo5585 : OMG yes! I was on the fence with TTC for a couple of years, and anytime someone would ask I’d get soooo irritated because I felt like it was always making me second guess how I was feeling about TTC. Now that we are actually TTC only a couple of my close girlfriends actually know. We haven’t even told our parents, and now that it’s been almost a year every single time someone asks I seriously want to cry.
Post # 14
socalgirl1689 : Maybe other people should think twice before they post invasive and personal comments about someone else.
Post # 15
ksn1219 : This fascinates me. No one has ever told me I was pregnant no matter what was going on (aside from say the ER trying to make sure I’m not a lying liar when I had kidney stones and the like – yeah, still a virgin then, lol). Even when I did get pregnant this year, when I announced it I was told “thought so… you stopped talking about it so either you were or you couldn’t and we didn’t mention it.” I did have a coworker tell me I was glowing last year, but in reference to being married – she hasn’t even noticed I’m expecting yet, haha.
some people are just thoughtless. I’d say either don’t bother with that line of chatter on FB anymore or point out that it’s inconsiderate to others and you’d appreciate it if people didn’t comment in that manner anymore (maybe privately though and personally I’d find it off-putting, but that’s my problem)