Post # 1
Well ladies, I’m having a melt-down. I’m not sure if I just need to rant and have some support or if I’m actually looking for advice but here it is. Any comments/advice/whatever is helpful, unless you are going to be mean in which case, please don’t because I’m on the verge of a total wedding breakdown!
I am having a destination wedding in a very expensive city. I finally found my location about 8 months ago and signed the contract for the space in December and paid the deposit, and the first half of the payment. We just paid the second half right now. We were supposed to close on the catering contract 2 days ago but I had a few problems with the contract. First, the flowers were supposed to be included in the price but in the contract it said that we had to pay for them, there were also surprise charges (even though I had been told A NUMBER OF TIMES that EVERYTHING was included except for meat and alcohol) and there was no kid’s pricing at all. I wrote back about these concerns and he wrote back that they had decided that they have too much going on this year and that planning my event is becoming “too complicated” so they cancelled my event (CAN THEY DO THIS??) Anyway, he told me that I can still have the space but I cannot use outside caterers so basicallllllly, I’m screwed. He refuses to cater it and won’t let me use outside caterers, WHAT???!?!?! He’s letting me out of the contract with no penalty, HOW NICE OF HIM!
Here is the kicker, there are less than 3 months until my wedding. WHAT THE WHAT?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?! Girls, I swear to you, I am no bridezilla. Apart from trying to negotiate on pricing, I have been totally agreeable!!!!!! I have never been mean. ANyway, I sent him an apology email saying that I was sorry if I had been asking for too many changes on the contract etc and he won’t budge. AHHHHHHH!!! He’s a super well-off 65 year old retired dentist who does this as a “hobby” so obviously he doesn’t need the money.. Basically, I’m screwed and he doesn’t care at all.. He’s not losing anything..
Thank you for reading!! I’m going to go continue to throw myself a pity party.
Post # 3
See if there are any wedding coordinators in that area that might be able to help you.
Post # 4
I would get on every wedding board possible and tell your story. Name and shame…
Also second the wedding coordinator suggestion.
Post # 5
I don’t have any advice but I just wanted to say that really sucks. You poor thing!!! I hope you can figure something out, and I hope other bees have more advice then I can give you 🙁
Post # 6
Get on Yelp.com. What a nightmare.
Post # 7
@FutureMRS3lastnames: oh my gosh, I’d be halfway into a full-on meltdown! I would definitely name and shame, and immediately look up new wedding venues that are somewhat close to your original, because I imagine guests have booked hotels.
Scour boards and google for highly reccomended places. This guy is beyond unprofessional, and I would have been less than polite in dealing with him.
Can you share where this took place?
Post # 8
I hope you can find someplace else quickly! I would keep it in the same area for people who already bought plane tickets… Good luck!
Also, Name and shame!
Post # 9
Yes, I would definitely start raising all the bad publicity you can about this place. Post it to every wedding board, every consumer rating place, heck, even google this place – there is bound to be sites where you can rate them. Do not embellish – simply state what you told us. I also think getting in touch with a wedding coordinator local to that area would be a tremendous help. Oh and make sure you get in touch with BBB to lodge a complaint and see about getting your money back!
Post # 10
Post another post on weddingbee with the heading “Did you have your weedding in “—“? Need help” Rewrite your situation and ask what venue they used for their wedding. Tell your budget, how many people, and any other details you would need. Ask them to post pics if need be. Good luck.
Post # 11
What a dick! I agree with the PPs plans of action. I really hope you can get a helpful planner to help you out with this mess! Hugs to you!
Post # 12
@FutureMRS3lastnames: Yelp this beast. You’ll find someone way better–think of it this way: it’s better to know that this guy is a mess now than after he completely f’s up your wedding!
Post # 13
I would file a complaint with the BBB and get a move on looking at other options. Is it possible to move the wedding back at all? Probably not considering its 3 months out. Good luck.
Post # 14
Thank you all!!! Unfortunately, the BBB is only in the US and this is an international destination wedding otherwise I totally would do that but once we get done with this guy, I will definitely name and shame him. I DO NOT want this to happen to anyone else. SO stressful!
Post # 15
@FutureMRS3lastnames: I am so sorry. So you have fully paid for the venue for the ceremony right but you cannot bring in any outside caterers and he wont cater it? Is there anyone else at his company you can talk to? I imagine not if you said it is his hobby. I agree with PP see if you can you find a local wedding planner, someone who can mediate and try to talk to him on your behalf. What country is this in? He sounds like a nightmare.
Post # 16
Is he your contact at the venue? If not, contact the venue, explain the situation, and get in writing approval to bring in an outside caterer. If they still won’t let you, or if this he is your venue contract, then you are entitled to all your money back because they are in breach of contract. You reserved that space with the intention to have a catered reception, and perhaps even have a catering minimum, so you should either be able to bring in outside catering or get a refund. Sorry you are having to go through this.