Post # 1
Somday I’ll be engaged.
He’s actually going to…you know…ask me to marry him! And he’ll get down on one knee and give me a ring or something! And I’ll have to say yes or no or maybe cry a lot (hopefully not). And after that, I will commit to spending the rest of my life with this one man. Forever. And we’re going to spend lots of money on a wedding and honeymoon. And then we’re going to be MARRIED.
…You’d think I would have realized how real this is a long time ago…like, back in May, when I first started working on the backyard to prepare for a potential outdoor reception, or in August, when I started to fiendishly research weddings.
Uh, no. It didn’t hit me until now.
I’m not gonna lie. I’m freaking out a little. I mean, I’ve always known marriage is serious and I’ve thought about it a lot and taken on all the trappings of smart decision making. It’s just never felt so real before. This is literally a grave decision I’m making; if I marry him, I live with that decision until the day I die, for better or worse. I’m certainly not worried about my choice to be with my SO, but all the same, this is heavy stuff! I better not screw this up, LOL!
Have any other ladies in waiting, or bees in general, had a moment like this? Where all of a sudden “it hits you?”
Post # 3
Yep! It’s forever. Not something to be taken lightly (as said in ceremonies I have witnessed.) It’s really huge if you seriously think about it.(which I hope everyone does,LOL) I feel the same way about kids. LOL
I certainly can’t wait to marry my SO and have kids though.
It’s not just you to worry about anymore. You have to another person to consider.
P.S. I thought this was an engagement post and I was gonna be the first congrats.LOL
Post # 4
lol yeppers!! i had a dream the night before last that M proposed (it had to be a bit in the future because i had long hair or a longer ponytail) and he asked and i woke up and was freaking out a bit.. .it was quite strange but satisfying..
Post # 5
We don’t argue very often (as in we’ve had maybe a half dozen arguments since we started dating, over two years ago), but every time we disagree about anything, it hits me. And I have this sense of “well, it’s time to either work this out or decide it’s something I’m willing to live with, since I’m stuck with him.” 🙂
Post # 6
@ms herring…. totally!! m and i have argued a bunch this week, this is VERY RARE for us… but it’s like is this what i want for the rest of my life and i think most definitely because arguing with this meathead is better than being with anyone else. i adore him.
Post # 7
@crebre80 – Totally 🙂 And actually, some of our arguments have been about wedding planning (pathetically). And they always devolve into me shouting “Fine! Then you just plan the damn thing!” rather than “Let’s just call it off!” We’re stuck with each other. And that’s awesome.
Post # 8
Yes. I felt the same way, everytime he would do something or his family would do something I would ask myself, “Do I really want to make a promise to God that I will deal with this for the rest of my life?” But then we work through it and we become closer.
Post # 9
*hugs* I occasionally feel like this. Like a “Holy COW, it’s real!”…and then I freak out. We have a loooong way to go til we’re settled in one place, and that scares me, but I can’t imagine not having him around. That’s when I know it’s real.
Post # 10
Ah, it’s funny this post came up! I just had a moment like this last week. See, my fiance and I have known each other since we were 13. He even asked me out in Grade 10 (but I shot him down, ouch). I never would have thought we’d end up getting married, or even dating – not that I didn’t find him attractive or anything, because by the time Grade 12 rolled around I had a crush on him, but I just couldn’t have imagined it. So throughout the course of our relationship, I’ve occasionally had moments where I’ve suddenly felt physically dizzy (kind of like deja vu) and I realize, “Oh my god, I’m dating ______ from high school! How cool is that?”
So since we’re engaged now, that feeling is amplified so much. A few days ago I had that same dizzy feeling, except it wasn’t just, Wow, I’m dating _____ from high school but I’m marrying ____ from high school! And his children will be my children, and his big memories will be my big memories, and my and his life will now be our life, inextricably linked. It’s a huge deal, it’s a big choice, and it blows my mind that we’re making it together.
So yes, suffice to say, it has hit me!
Post # 11
@redherring: we oftentimes quote m’s daughter and say i guess i’m stuck with you… then respond i guess so and just grin like crazy
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
I still don’t think it has hit me yet, and we’ve been engaged for almost a year! 🙂
Post # 13
I had a realization about things a little while ago. We aren’t getting married for a year and a half but we are going to try and get a new car this coming summer, then start looking at apartments at the first of the year, and then he’ll move in around March, and get settled, and then I’ll move in in June, since that’s when the wedding is….It is a ways away, but thinking of all those big things, it seems overwhelming, like..OMG, I’m growing up, and I’m getting married, and it’s coming quickly.
Post # 14
I’m in this same place, just recently being engaged, and it’s really weird. Sometimes I’m like “oh my gosh, this is it…is this really the ONE MAN I want to commit to FOREVER?” When it’s all said and done, of course I do, but those moments when it’s really real it scares me too. It’s overwhelming, but I just keep having to remember that it’s one step at a time. 🙂
Post # 15
I always find this to be a pretty smacking realization. I think it’s scary, because you don’t know what forever entails.
But who better to find out with, you know?
Post # 16
Soo weird cause today I felt like this!!!! today is the 9 month mark.. (just wrote a post) and I feel nervous! The past month we have been having arguments.. mainly be being a nagging negative nut! I think I keep thinking of the whole planning instead of one step at a time. Glad to see I am not alone.