(Closed) OMG Bees….IT’S OVER

posted 11 years ago in Waiting
Post # 137
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m a little late to the party but, I just wanted to say that you’re doing an amazing job of staying strong! Congratulations on passing your first half of the week!

Post # 138
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My only advice would be something another girl (whose BF had broken up with her out of the blue when she was also hoping to get engaged soon) told me when my ex and I broke up– that you just need to focus on making yourself happy. Splurge on yourself for awhile. If something will cheer you up, do it– your favorite ice cream, a new dress, a new hairstyle, a jog at the gym with peppy music. And I think that if he can’t make a commitment with you, then you do deserve someone who can! My ex broke up with me several years ago, and now I am so glad that he did– because otherwise I wouldn’t have met my current fiance. Maybe there is someone out there right now just waiting for you to meet him and go out with him– someone who will be thrilled to marry you! Stay strong! πŸ™‚

Post # 139
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

You are doing SO WELL Dreamingbee, I am so incredibly proud of you!!  You are a bad-ass cool chick, and don’t let anyone tell you different.  I am so impressed.  I, like a lot of other Bees here, have a commitmentphobe ex.  I actually squeaked a “shut up ring” out of him, but that was it.  I finally got up the strength to leave him and am now engaged to a man who is so awesome, I sometimes wonder if he’s for real.  And he cannot WAIT to marry me as well (I’m having dress drama and he’s researching all the different shops for me in the area, without prompting.  Seriously, who does that??)

Point being, there is always a light at the end of the tunnel and there really is something “magical” waiting for you on the other side. πŸ™‚

Post # 140
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Helper bee

We are all super proud of you! You are definitely loved–you have 4 pages in just 3 days!! Wow!! Keep it up, you’re doing great, and you are going to feel even better with each day that passes! πŸ™‚

Post # 141
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1953 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Just jumping in here to say that if you want a dog I totally think you should get one!!!!!  A dog for yourself is the perfect best friend you need right now!!!

Post # 142
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

You are awesome, I keep checking in and I have to say I feel like starting a fan page for you on FB or something!! πŸ™‚ YOu are truly an inspiration to everyone on here. I can’t even imagine how hard this must be and you are clearly extremely strong for being able to get this far. I personally believe you are doing what’s best for YOU by not responding to him. You might end up together, you might not. But either way it’s important you are CERTAIN it was the right choice and this is for sure the best way to do it.

Keep hanging in there, it only gets better I promise!!!

Post # 143
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142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Hang in there! Don’t txt him back! He needs to know what life without you feels like.

Post # 144
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@DreamingBee: He’s definitely playing it safe. Notice he didn’t ask you any questions, because he was doubtful that you’d respond. He’s getting your point, loud and clear.

It’s been 4 days, so I hope its starting to getting easier for you.
-Hugs.-

Post # 147
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4005 posts
Honey bee

Good Lord! I get busy at work for one week and I missed so freaking much!

First, I’m so sorry that this happened, but you’re incredible! You’re standing your ground, you’re not contacting him in any way, and you’re doing FANTASTIC! Look at yourself! You’re interviewing for an awesome new job, you’re kicking butt at it, and you’re starting to make him sweat by not responding to him.

I think this new job is coming to you at the perfect time. If you get and take this job, you won’t even have time to think about him and be sad! Plus, you might meet the man of your dreams because of this, and in a few years, look back at this time and wonder what in the world you were thinking waiting for (ex) BF!

I just wanted to chime in and say go you! You will certainly have sad times, but the more time passes, the less you’ll keep thinking of him.

Post # 148
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’ve been following this post for days. And you seem to have everything covered in such a graceful dignified manner. I just wanted to give you some thumbs up and just know I’m rooting for you in your new endeavours.

I was thinking maybe he’ll come around maybe he won’t. But you know in the end you’re gonna be happy. So I’m glad your handling this rough period with such grace, but still sticking up for yourself. That way you wont have any regrets.

One day you’re gonna be sitting in your couch eating popcorn with Mr. Right and you’ll be so glad you didn’t compromise.

Goodluck and keep it up chica and I’m still looking forward to seeing your name crossed off the list. So don’t you think about leaving us.

Post # 149
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@2PeasinaPod: I’m with you! I had a crazy few days at work and couldn’t watch the boards as closely as usual and then I discover this!

 

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@DreamingBee: I just read all the posts on this thread and WOW, you rock. You are handling this so so well and I really admire that. Such an inspiration! Keep it up sister! We are here for you

Post # 150
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Just wanted to throw my hat in the ring to say DreamingBee, I’ve always thought you were the sweetest, most supportive Bee on here, with nothing but nice things to say, and even AFTER this went down with your ex, you’ve been amazing and congratulatory to other Bees who’ve gotten engaged (which is quite admirable, anyone who has been through a breakup knows). Obviously none of us know you in person, but if your heart shines through this clearly on the internet, an amazing guy who you deserve will see it one day soon and you’ll be over the moon in love. I HAVE NO DOUBT.

Keep staying strong! It’s driving him insane <insert evil laugh here>

Hugs!

Post # 151
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

**hugs**

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