Post # 152
@DreamingBee: I totally think you guys did the right thing. I took a lot of courage for him to tell you the truth and he did. Instead of you settling for him never being ready you did the hard thing and sad goodbye. I know it hurts know but it’ll get better in time. One day the right guy for you will come along. The guy who knows he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. I wish you all the best and I know you can get through this.
Post # 153
Just popping in again for the “We Love Dreamingbee Party”! I see you are still chugging along and being strong!! Like my southern mama would say..’DARLIN’ I AM SO PROUD OF YOU!”
Post # 154
@MissBoston: PERFECTLY said 🙂
Post # 156
I am so lucky, great suport system and YOU GUYS on top if it! Just popping in to wish me good luck…awesome.
Found out I’m in the only one left in the running right now for the job, so unless these next 2 people don’t like me (I heard they’re tough but I bet I can handle it) the job will be mine.
Also found out that they would be starting right at the beginning of October! So soon! And within a month or so I would no longer have my current cell phone # (work/mobile phone is the same) so I could just NOT update the Ex and that would eliminate the pesky text messages. It will be intense for 3 weeks followed by an entire MONTH away from home. So yes, no time to think about it. I’ll come out of training (and more than enough he-tox) just before Thanksgiving.
I’m 95% sure I’ll take it if it’s offered. May be exactly what I need.
Post # 157
This is fantastic news! You know it’s cliche but when doors close it is so others can open….you are on your way!
Post # 158
The thought just crossed my mind that maybe you’ll meet Mr. Right at your new job?? 🙂
Post # 159
@DreamingBee: FANTASTIC NEWS!!! I agree, maybe Mr. Right is waiting in your new job 🙂
Post # 160
That is wonderful news! I just wanted to sign in to say that you are awesome. And you’re doing great. 🙂
Post # 161
Well now you are officiallyback to waiting! Waiting to hear about your new awesome job!!
This seems like it would be perfect, and I bet you’ll rock the interview with the other two people.
Keep us updated! I want to hear about the other interviews!
Post # 162
You are doing so well! It sounds like the new job prospects are coming along so well. I hope you do get it!
Somebody mentioned doing things for yourself – and I would totally second this! Especially going shopping – after my last break up my friend took me out shopping and I found two dresses and another skirt and top that I now call my hot girl clothes… they made me feel extremely hot and powerful in them and even to this day when I wear any of them I get compliments – must be the magic break up power in those clothes and the confidence they give me! Spoil yourself and buy something that makes you feel good in it!
Post # 163
So happy that the job prospect looks good. You’re doing an awesome job!
Post # 164
As weird as it is to think about ‘perfect timing’ during something like this, the job stuff is actually pretty perfect for you right now which is awesome! I can only imagine how helpful it would be to have something so time consuming to completely and totally take over all of your time. Fingers crossed that you get it!
Post # 165
I’m glad the ‘Bee has been such a comfort to you!
I think I’m in the minority on this…
Fiance and I had been together a year and he hadn’t even said he loved me. I knew he did but he hadn’t said it. We were living together by then. By a year and a half I was feeling “the itch” (he’d said it by then). We had “the talk” around a year and a half and he said quite frankly that he wasn’t ready and didn’t know when he’d be ready.
I didn’t leave. It didn’t even cross my mind to leave. He makes me happy, he makes me a better person. And with or without a ring, I’d stay with him. For me, it was more important to have him in my life than to be engaged or married.
There were a lot of tough conversations and hurt feelings but we worked through it. Although it sounds super cliche (warning, string of cliches to follow) if it’s meant to be, it’ll all work out. Everything happens for a reason. Etc. 🙂
You sound like an amazingly strong woman and I just have to give you millions of kudos and hugs! You’re definitely destined for great things, whatever they may be!
Post # 166
@egb: Maybe one of my new co-workers will introduce me to a fabulous guy…
LOL! That’s right, I am back to waiting 🙂 For the new job. Haha!
I’m too tired to shop (!) but one thing I do love is I’m making myself dinner tonight. Becuase I feel like it. And finally catching up on my TV show and drinking a glass of wine.
Thanks! I am really interested in the job now now, and I’m just going to follow this good “moving” energy. It’s like, at work we were “stuck” with this difficult account for a year, and that all blew up last week. We’re probably losing the business but at least everyone can move on. And my boss is moving on, and I’ve needed a change for awhile too. I felt a bit stuck regarding my relationship with BF, and now that’s freed up. So EVERYTHING is changing and moving. It’s intense but I do think the timing is good.
I saw my chiropractor today and said we don’t really “let go” of things as much as we reach for something new, and we have to let go of the old stuff just like swinging on the monkey bars from one to the other. Things started moving for me (I was interviewing for the job before this break) and it was time for a change.
I really wanted to reach for the next thing with my guy by my side. And plan together, but you know what? It’s OK that he wasn’t up for participating in change/a plan. I’m making my own plan and my life with change and grow on my own.
I told my dad today, which made it more real and took this to a new level of suckiness. And I had some bad hours this afternoon where I really missed calling and talking to Ex-BF. Especially now that I’m facing a potentially huge change that I’m excited about.
Thanks for your kudos and hugs! Your post was especially thought-provoking. On one hand, maybe it helped you were living together so some step forward was taken. I didn’t feel comfortable taking that step without knowing he was thinking we would have a future together. But it would have been SO FUN to live together! On the other hand, this was not just about getting engaged and married. It was about two people seeing a future together, and in order for two people to have a future, both have to have some idea of what they want! He was the guy who originally said he wanted to get married…I wanted to be with him but I did not want to be a girlfriend forever, especially given that he’d said marriage was in the cards for him. All of the sudden he didn’t have any kind of “plan”. He was at a loss for what he wanted with regard to relationships. You can’t figure out a plan together if one person’s “vision” suddenly disappears 🙁 You’re very strong that you stayed and had a lot of tough conversations. I didn’t feel that conversations would work, he had to work it out for himself. But maybe it was just not as good of a fit as you and your Fiance.