Hugs hugs to you and yes you chose right! You chose YOU!
At least he was honest and told you the truth. I had to do this with two guys I dated after my divorce (I divorced dec of 2003). And one was my old college bf, a guy whom I thought had everything together.
Realize that life has a path for you and if you have faith, then it’s something you’re not alone walking. Plus we’re here too!
I remember when I dumped a guy a few years ago (about five) who I dated for a good while who was a med professional too. He was smart, attractive, well-educated, and seemed to have it all together. But he was afraid of the “m” thing. Fast forward, I meet DH, we date and during the over 2 years we dated, this guy would call me from time to time (we parted with dignity and as friends) ask if I had dumped my bf/Fi and I’d say nope and that I was happy.
The week before our marriage, this ex called me (I had finally told him we couldn’t talk as friends if he had something other than friends on his mind as boundaries are important to me) and said he had basically “copped out” when he had told me he wasn’t ready for marriage in his late 30’s. That he made the biggest mistake of his life, and that he wished he could have done “us” over again.
Oh well. that was his choice. His inability to stand up. What he did say was he was really still wanting to date around, and felt a bit invinceable. He said he was wrong, in that dating around after I dumped him didn’t fix anything, and that he just “got it” too late.
Maybe your ex bf will change sooner rather than later, realize you are the one, and that he is behaving imho, immaturely, or he won’t. But you did things for yourself, ending things on your terms, and have a wonderful future ahead of you without or with this guy.
I have learned after having lived 40 somewhat years, that love finds you when your heart is ready and when the time is right. Sometimes the heart is there, but the time is wrong. You will have that wonderful lifetime love because you are open to it! That’s the great part and the big part. I know it hurts you, and you’re sad, but just vent here and realize that choosing you over somebody who could string you along for many years is the right choice again and again.