(Closed) OMG Bees….IT’S OVER

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 122
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391 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I read most of the posts and had to pull up the tissues. I hope you are doing OK. Although most of us have never met, I hope that you trust me when I say I’m thinking of you and sending you the best.

Post # 123
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1339 posts
Bumble bee

Woo hoo DB for ignoring his lam-o text.  He was just fishing.  He misses you but is still too selfish and confused so he sent you a text to make sure you were still there…..and guess what you treated him like the little boy that he is and you ignored that game!

Stay strong, this time is the hardest…keep us posted!

Post # 124
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814 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

all i can say is you are one strong girl.. most of us can not bulid up enough strength to end something we want so bad. even if it isn’t right.. one day you will find that perfect man, you never know, he may still be the one.. dh  and i broke up before we got enganged… i didn’t want to be his ‘girlfriend’ anymore.. i wanted to be his wife, and if he wasn’t ready after 3 years, than i was moving on… i wish you the best and i hope you can find the good in all of this!

Post # 126
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330 posts
Helper bee

I am sending big bee hugs your way!

Post # 127
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1331 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Just wanted to say that I’m thinking of you and sending happy thoughts your way! *hugs*

Post # 128
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330 posts
Helper bee

I just want to add that your SO INCREDIBLY strong. More power to ya sister!

I just want to share with you an experience I went through much like this. I was in a relationship prior to my current one with a man I truly believed I would marry. We talked about weddings constantly, and as each year pass (3 in total) I kept waiting for that ring. It never came. We lived together for almost all three of those years, and even moved 3 hours away from our hometown together for a job offer he received. We were obviously very committed. When we moved (right around the 2 year marker) I was troubled by the fact that I was picking up my life, leaving a job I loved, my family, and school, without a ring on my finger. We had many discussions about marriage and our future, but it just never came.

One day he made a comment that he wouldn’t be ready to start the ‘getting married process’ as he called it, ie. being engaged, until he was completely done with school. This is completely understandable except in his circumstance. He was 26, and already had 2 masters. In my mind, going for another degree, was just his way of putting it off even longer. I took several weeks and took a good hard look at my life, realized I deserved more, packed my bags, and my puffy eyes and I went home. It was hard, unbearable, gut wrenching agony, but here I am more than a year later, stronger, wiser, and proud of myself.

I now have the love of a man who cannot wait to marry me! I found someone who is my best friend, and is just as excited to spend the rest of his life with me as I am to him. I know what it is like to feel alone, in the wanting to spend forever with you party, but I can tell you, when you find someone who is EXCITED, and PASSIONATE about your future together, it makes all the bad stuff feel totally worth it. My boyfriend cannot wait to watch me walk down the aisle to him, cannot wait to hold my hand while I give birth to our children, and stroke my hair when its gray and frail (his own words, I am so lucky).

Hang in there. It is a long hard road, but the other side is magical.

Post # 129
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4 posts
Wannabee

@babybritt143: Thanks for sharing that story. Leaving is so hard when you share a place. It makes me feel better to know that you have found someone so special. I am staying with my sister after a 4 year breakup last week. We lived together for 2.5. It sucks. But there is no other options for me anymore.

So Since I left it is starting to all make more sense. Why would I want to be with someone who dosen’t feel the same way about me as I do for him. I know what I want. I told him until he felt the same way we would not be living together. And if I can ever forgive him it’s going to take a whole lotta work on his end. Until then, I’m going to “do me”. Jersey shore anyone?

Post # 130
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330 posts
Helper bee

@soccerchick: You go girl! Stay strong, it DOES get better, even when it feels like it won’t. You just have to keep reminding yourself that you deserve to feel loved, wanted. My boyfriend was the first one to ever make me feel like he was ‘lucky’ to have found me. My ex always treated me as if I was just the girl who came along at that point in his life.

And don’t give in to those silly calls and texts! Ugh! On the day my family and I drove to pick up all my stuff, my ex had left a piece of computer paper with a to-do list on it on the kitchen counter, out in plain sight. Number one was 1) cancel hot air balloon engagement plan. I know him, and I know he doesn’t make to-do lists, so it was just a way to spite me I suppose. I took a pen and wrote “Good idea” next to it. lol

Post # 132
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1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Oh, he is really pulling out the big guns and trying to get you to respond!! Stay strong, lady!

Post # 133
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1390 posts
Bumble bee

@DreamingBee: Ugh, you’re kidding! Somebody’s not taking your awesome, cool-chick attitude very well is he?

Post # 134
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1763 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I love this thread. For once a girl who is strong enough to stick up for herself! I still wouldn’t answer his text and if you do keep it brief and say “thanks.”  You are doing so great and staying strong! You have all of us here rooting for you.

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