Post # 1
So I’m going back and forth with whether or not to have a first b-day party for G. I really don’t feel like doing anything big, but everyone is asking me what I’m doing. She isn’t going to remember anything, and she doesn’t need a thing.
Am I being really ba-humbug about this? I just want to get a cake, and invite the grandparents but I’m feeling this pressure to have some big stupid party. I didn’t send birth announcements, I didn’t do holiday cards with her in holiday attire, I’m just not feeling all of this LOOK AT MY KID kind of stuff. Blah.
I, of course, think she is the smartest, most beautifu, magical little being on the entire planet, but based on the fact that I have never felt this about any other child-I’m pretty sure these parties are more for the parents. It has nothing to do with finances or anything.
Let’s discuss! What are your thoughts about first birthday parties?
Post # 3
A must. 🙂
I actually do not think that it’s about the parents. I think about all the pictures the baby will see when she is older of herself as a young child. And the birthday parties every year.
It doesn’t have to be anything HUGE but I think a celebration is in order. Whether it’s with close family and friends or her whole day care class! I don’t know, I just personally think the First Birthday is such a huge one too. It’s definitely the one that I/we made a point to fly home for for all our nieces and nephews.
And really BA, holiday cards are not really LOOK AT ME to me. I always enjoy getting them from family and friends to see how their kids are doing. So I look forward to them and I know family and friends of ours will look forward to them too. Especially since so many live far away.
Post # 4
Man, I can’t believe she’s a year already!
Honestly, we didn’t make a big deal out of Addie’s first birthday. At daycare, they do a special treat and blow up the bounce house for each kid’s birthday, so she got to do that. We actually didn’t really celebrate on her birthday (it was a Wednesday); we had our friends over the Sunday after her birthday for dinner, and we got her a little cake all to herself. That was about it (no invitiations, decorations, etc…). We did end up buying her a couple outdoor toys and calling those her “birthday presents,” but she didn’t get to play with them until July because we still had snow in our backyard until then. 🙂
My husband and I agree that birthdays should be family affairs, so even as she gets older, I doubt we’ll have big, all-out parties for her. It’ll probably continue to be just dinner and cake, maybe with our friends over or any family that happens to be in town, until she’s old enough to choose what she wants to do.
Post # 5
I’m in the don’t do it camp, but mostly because I went to 2 different 1st birthday parties this weekend. Both parties resulted in people buying a ridiculous amount of stuff that no one needs. Aka; cheap plastic noise-making crap. At 1 year old, it just seemed overkill, especially since they were both talking about taking a load to a local church or daycare the next morning. Now if you could convince people not to bring presents, that might be an option. Unfortunately, that’s hard to do.
I’m all for a quiet dinner with the grandparents, singing “happy birthday,” and having a smash cake. Maybe one or two presents that you actually want them to have.
I feel like a party pooper now.
Post # 6
I’m all for 1st birthday parties. They don’t have to be huge or anything, but it is lovely to have a proper celebration IMO.
Post # 7
I was exactly like you–we had no reason to have a big 1st birthday party. DS had 3 little friends and that was it, all of my other friends didn’t have children yet or had older children so I didn’t see the point in having a huge bash.
We took DS to a really nice zoo, then out to lunch with just him, Darling Husband and I. It was special for all of us and important for Darling Husband and I to celebrate one year of being parents together. Then we came home for presents and cake with grand parents and that was it. DS was too tired for anything else but he loved the balloons, opening presents and the CAKE! He knew it was a special day. We made each meal fun too. Of course he doesn’t remember it but I always will.
Post # 8
I think that it’s totally fine to skip the hoopla. For my son’s first birthday, I rented out a shelter at the park by the playground. (He’s a May baby so the weather was perfect). The rental was $20 and we invited family and a few friends and had pizza. The only reason we chose to do it there instead of having it at home was because I thought $20 was well worth not having to clean my house before and after having people over. Plus, it gave the other kids something to do. It was a perfect day!
Regardless of how low key you go, do take lots and lots of pictures. You’ll want to remember her at that age not necessarily remember the party!
Post # 9
Yeah, no. Big 1st birthday parties are dumb. I say this as a mom of an 8 year old and a 5 month old. Only had grandparents for the older daughter and ill probably do something as small for the new baby in 7 months. People do think I’m bah humbug- but its my time and money!
Post # 10
I was always told that the 1st birthday party was more for the parents surviving the first year. lol Do something YOU want to do and make it fun for you.
Post # 11
I heard someone say one time that the 1st birthday party was a way for them to thank all the folks who helped the new parents/baby make it through the first year. I thought that was a good way to think about it. Our daughter’s party is next Saturday. We’re just having close family and friends over to the house for a light lunch/cake. Nothing super extravagant but I do want to celebrate this milestone. I can’t believe we all survived! 🙂
Post # 12
Do it how you want to! Baby Bear is 4 months old, but I’m getting ideas already.LOL
Post # 13
Lauren’s first birthday is in a few months and I am already torn. She has had health problems and I just feel EXHAUSTED and not in any shape to plan anything. I may have just family with pizza and cake, but that’s really all I’m capable of – and I think that’s ok.
Post # 14
I think you’re being totally reasonable. I think most people go to be polite, and the child doesn’t remember it, so it is really a party for the parents and grandparents. When we have kids, I expect to invite my parents, and maybe my siblings, but definitely low key.
Post # 15
I was not going to do a birthday party for my 3rd child, but I decided to do it (january 2014) we did not have a baby shower, or a party for her bautism. My husband thinks is a waste of money since she is so small. We decided to do it in the end because we had celebrate our other kids birthdays. We are renting a park hall, inviting many people(people are inviting themselves..) the theme is zebra print ballerina. We are going to have a blast, cant wait!