(Closed) OMG, how long does it flippin’ take?!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
503 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Oh I am so with you…I thought my fiance, who can be more feminine and creative than me, would be all over the wedding planning. Instead, he is completely absorbed with a karate show that is going to be June 18 and things he can plan the entire wedding in the month between the show and our wedding. I want to kill him. Sorry, no helpful advice. I’m just as frustrated as you are.

Post # 4
1408 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I feel you! i’ve been working my a** off to get our invitations done and out the door and my FI can’t pick up the phone and confirm addresses for his friends (some of whom I know 100% for sure have moved since we last asked 6 months ago)! My FI, if left to plan this on his own, is certain her could plan this whole wedding in the 2-4 weeks before the wedding. He doesn’t understand why anything needs to be done “so early” either! If you find a solution to this way of thinking, feel free to share it! 😀 In the meantime, know there are others of us going through the same frustrations! *hugs*

Post # 5
711 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Word y’all. I was told “I thought we could relax now that we’re engaged.” And when I say, “hey when is a good day for us to meet the caterer?” he immediately freaks out about missing work and how he’s sooooooooo busy. Eventually he responds, I just have to wait him out.

Post # 6
1347 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Oh no, I’m sorry! That sounds really frustrating. There’s probably no being sneaky about trying to get your guys to help. I’d suggest being really frank and straightforward about why it needs to be done “so early” – to get numbers to the caterers or to plan X, Y, and Z which depends on knowing who is coming to the wedding, so guests can buy plane tickets and make other travel arrangements, etc. etc.

Or maybe, a simple “Because I’ve asked you to and it’s important to me. Please do it by tomorrow. I’d really appreciate it.”

Good luck!

Post # 7
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Thast why its always easier to deal with it yourself….I found that out the hard way!  I gave the FI 2 (TWO!!) tasks to complete earlier in the year – book the DJ and book the Reverand to marry us – both who he is friends with.  Easy, right????  Right???  NO!!!  It took him 2 months to do both things – which required a mere phone call to both parties to set the date aside.  And I had to remind him every week to do it.

Now….I do it myself and vent my frustrations on here :o)  Safer this way….

Post # 8
1023 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Well my fiance, now-hubs did not understand why I was planning things way out in advance or why I was so “dedicated” to getting stuff done until we were only a couple months out still in need of a photog. He was shocked not only by how expensive it was, but also by the fact that nearly everyone was completely booked up! Then it clicked, he started thanking me profusely for everything I’d done and tried to help more. But he still didn’t do as much as I hopes! ACK.

Hopefully your guy will get it too! And soon!

Post # 9
7976 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I always give J a timeline, like in your situation I would say, “I’ve got all of the envelopes addressed except these 3 and want to send them out by the end of the week. Can you email so-and-so today to find out her name?”

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