Post # 1
So a friend of mine told me about a wedding invitaiton she got in the mail today. It was addressed to her husband only, not her (mind you they have been married for years)…anyhow… when they opened the invitation it basically says that if you want attend their wedding and eat, you need to send the bride and groom a check for $45 each person to pay for your meal.
On top of that, they had the nerve to include a list of where they are registered. Maybe it is just me, but if I cannot afford to feed my wedding guests, I would not have a wedding.
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2018 - Oakland Manor
ummmm, I’d rsvp no on that one. It’s a bit rude IMO….
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery
WHOA! I know there was a thread before where someone said the price of the meal choices where listed on the invite, so I’ve heard that before, but I’m still floored.
And everyone knows you don’t put registry info on the invites
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2009 - Catholic ceremony, reception at local armory
Wow, that is not okay. To each their own, I guess!
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2018 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay
While I wouldn’t do it, I still think "to each their own".
Post # 7
InterestinG! I’ve never heard or seen that before!
Post # 8
I read the same post frenchbulldog mentioned awhile ago… I heard its common in certain Asian cultures? If thats the norm in your circle, more power to you! If I received an invite like that though I would respectfully decline.
So here’s my question: Are you still required to bring a gift for the couple?
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
Yikes. Definitely wouldn’t be attending that wedding.
Post # 10
You can do that?? lol jk….. a little off putting :S to say the least!
Post # 11
Really, in which culture is charging guests for dinner the norm??!? I know that in some cultures, giving money rather than gifts is expected, but an outright charge per person? If you can’t afford the wedding, then you gotta scale back!
I wonder how many takers they will have? Not to mention, how many people actually give them a gift from the registry? If I were you, I would check the registry website after the wedding just out of curiousity to see how much stuff was bought.
Post # 12
Wow that’s too much. I would also decline. There should be a thread about how many etiquette faux pas one can commit with a single invitation. Looks like we have at least three here….
Post # 13
I’ve actually never gotten an invitation that didn’t have some mention or insert card of their registry. I guess in my circle/family, it’s okay. However, if anyone every sends me an invitation with a price list, I’m definately sending in a no.
Post # 14
Astonishing! If there is a culture were this is accepted the sender should be aware that this is not the standard and consider this when putting together their invite list.
Post # 15
That would be a RSVP of NO WAY! from me!
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
You know what I’d do?
I wouldn’t RSVP. An eye for an eye, yo.
@FlipFlopBride – Mr. MJ didn’t understand why we wouldn’t include registry info in our invite. Maybe it’s something done in his family though; I don’t know. (But we’re not having invites so, problem solved!)