- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
I’m a bit freakin’ out today….hope you can help me destress!? 🙂
I planned on my 3 BM’s wearing a VS convertible dress and thought the decision was pretty set in mid November…
but the more I think about it and the more the days go by I realize it may not work out. I know that my BM’s all or some of them are a little concerened, as am I, about being comfortable wearing the dress as it’s difficult to style and they all aren’t thrilled at this point w. their body image and the material being a little less forgiving….(among other reasons) I want to be able to change the dress.
I decided last night after talking w. my MOH/sister…that just in case they can hold onto the VS dress as a last resort but have the BM’s start to look at David’s Bridal dresses….
One of the downfalls is that my Maid/Matron of Honor and 1 of my BM’s both live in NY – not exactly easy travel anytime from MA. My other Bridesmaid or Best Man lives my area, which is good, but still…..
Not only that but the BM’s will now have to incur a cost of a dress that may be more than the VS one and/or having an issue of returning the VS dress to get their $ back, etc. Also the bigger concern that my BM’s will be able to find a dress they like, have it come in on time and only hope that they don’t need alterations! (if they do, I hope it can be done in time!!) 🙁
I regret not going w. my initial plan to go w. DB when I started looking into the idea of my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses back in July (my wedding is for this April.) I feel so depressed about that….as it’s making this MUCH worse now. Also, I wish I would’ve had my BM’s STILL go to DB w. me when they were all here at the same time back in Nov. to try out the dresses just in case….!! 🙁
Well I certainly learned several lessons in my planning…now I know that I can pass this on to my sister (who’s my Maid/Matron of Honor now) when she gets married (which may be next year). 🙂
Well anyway – I sent my BM’s an email 1st thing this morning explaining more about the dress issue, showed them some pics of the dresses I thought they’d like (as I’m allowing them to pick their own style) and told them about the colors I’d like them to choose from.
I am so overwhelmed right now and feel like my planning is falling apart. 🙁 I wish I could turn back time and do so many things different, but I can’t of course…and just hope that things do work out (as my vision for the wedding has changed often throughout the past year of planning that I just hope I end up with a wedding day that at least feels somewhat like I originally planned…