(Closed) OMG!!! Is she serious…FSIL drama…

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

What should you do?  You should have your wedding when you want to have it. If she can’t be there, oh well.  If it’s important enough to her, she’ll find a way to be there. 

She is in no position to tell you how to live your life and the world doesn’t revolve around her. 

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 1999

Sounds like your Future Sister-In-Law needs a good shaking. If selling your house so you can go on vacation and spend money isn’t enough of a red light as to her lack of ability to prioritize responsibily…then I don’t know what is.

You pick your wedding date according to what you and your FH want, not what his sister wants.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

i agree with them! It’s your day!

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011 - Blossom Heath

I agree with everyone else. It is your day and the people that really have your best interest at heart will be in attendance.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Have your wedding when you plan on having it.  There will always be people who make excuses.  I wanted to get married in October and I was swayed by my Future Sister-In-Law, so I changed the date to July.  I still have my heart set on October, but it is what it is.  If I could go back, I would have said, I am sorry Future Sister-In-Law, but we are getting married in October.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’d ignore her!  Do your thing, she’ll either be there or she won’t.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

geez, you need to put your foot down and you need to tell them how its gonna be, not the other way around!!!!! 

STAND YOUR GROUND!!!!!!!!! every decision you make, let it be firm, and dont let other people be an influence to change your mind! 
keep your date

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m sorry, I have to disagree with everyone. I think you and Fiance need to talk about this and figure out a way to work this out for everyone. It’s his sister – does he really want to get married without his sister there? That’s pretty harsh.

I think you need to worry a little more about your Fiance and less about how much you dislike this girl. She is his family, and that’s probably important to him.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Don’t move it. That’s crazy. She can bump a vacation.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think you need to discuss this with your Fiance and see what he thinks as well (since its his sister).  As a bride myself, I agree with you.  I would have the wedding when I want to (bc its OUR wedding day, not hers) and if its truly important, she will make the effort to be there.

However, it is FI’s sister – so you may want to see how he feels about this also.  If he agrees with you … then the decision is final! And you’re team!  If he doesn’t, then now would be a good time to come up with an alternative.  Or perhaps have the talk with her and say “Hey, I understand about the trip, but I’m sure you understand that we want to get married on our anniversary.”

Good luck!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Have it when you want to have it.  F everyone else.  It’s not their wedding, its yours.  People are so selfish!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2006

I think it depends on how close your Fiance is to his sister.  When we were setting the date my Darling Husband and I picked it.  I suggested consulting his family, and he told me they could show up if they wanted to or not, didn’t matter to him!  (My family had already told me whatever date we set they’d move heaven and earth to be there.)  So you two def talk about it and maybe have him talk to your Future Sister-In-Law.  If she’s not part of the wedding I don’t understand the big deal, as all she has to do is show up!

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My vote: go ahead as planned but you should have lied! Oh no, I can’t move it we’ve already booked the whatever, whatever and laid deposits down… “bummer”…. kinda idea…

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