Post # 1
I’ve been going on Weddingbee ever since I got engaged which as a little over a month ago and I finally registered.
Me and my fiance (it feels so good saying that) have been together for a little over 3 years and a half, and I’m so happy to be engaged.
I am 20 and he is 21 so we are still in school and living at our parents houses. I keep hearing that we are too young to be engaged, have any other bees experienced this and how did you cope with it? We are also going to have a long engagement since we will be paying for the wedding and need time to save up. How do we deal with a long engagement and when should we start perparing and planning for the wedding?
Thank you for the future help bees and I’m so happy to get your feedback.
Post # 3
Congratulations and welcome to the Bee!
I don’t have advice about comments about being too young, but just let people know that you are in love and excited to get married, and they’ll usually back off.
Post # 4
Welcome to the Hive! Can’t wait to see what you plan! Long engagements can be great, our has been.
Post # 5
Congratulations, and welcome! A long engagement is a great idea! It’ll give you time to finish school and get on your feet. Very practical!
Post # 6
Thank you all for the kind words
Post # 7
congrats on the engagement! and i myself am not engaged yet but me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years and we recently just bought a house and im 21 and hes 22. the point of me saying this lol is just age is seriosuly nothing but a number..and as long as you guys are in love and devoted to each other thats all that matters!
Post # 9
I don’t think you’re too young at all! As long as you are happy and committed to eachother age doesn’t matter. Good luck with your long engagement and all your planning!
Post # 10
Congrats! It’s never too early to start planning. I’d just wait until at least a year out for certain things you may change your mind on.
Post # 11
Congrats and Welcome to Weddingbee!
Post # 12
Best wishes! Being engaged is the greatest feeling! Age, in most cases, should not be a factor. As long as you two love and care for each other, know the meaning of compromise and show it everyday with each other, are mature enough to understand this level of commitment and know that you two are ready to start a life together, then you two will have a beautiful marriage.
I myself just turned 22 and got engaged earlier this year. Fortunately, I’ve only heard 1 age comment so far (FI is a mature 28 and everyone loves him so that may be why…) But I’ve seen plenty of people get married before 25-30 and their marriages are flourishing. Plus, you two are being responsible and waiting ’til you can afford to have the wedding… people should see that and bite their tongue before they make judgement. Enjoy your engagement and ignore people’s comments.
On the planning front, I’d wait ’til about a year before you start booking. But it doesn’t hurt to start planning now and getting ideas!
Post # 13
first of all congrats and second of all welcome to the too young to be engaged club. i too am 20, i have been engaged for almost a year. I am still in school, and although we will be living together in less than a month(yay) i know exactly where you are coming from. For some people it will take some time for them to come around to the idea. you dont have to worry here though, there are many of us that are young (too young in some opinions), but you dont get that here, and everyone is really accepting, and willing to help!!!
Welcome, and again congrats!!!
Post # 14
Yes, fear not we all love you! and Welcome!
I think its become a growing trend to marry “young” again. I have friends that are already married or will be within the next year. I think it’s gone around full circle. I myself am 22 but at the time of my wedding next year I’ll be 24. People are going to think what they want. What matters most is what YOU think.
A long engagement is a fabulous idea. It gives you time to focus on other things. And there is nothing wrong with doing a little “research” to see how things are supposed to go and what finances might look like.
My only suggestion is do not go dress shopping too early. You’ll say you want to see “what works for yoour body type” and then fall in love. 18 months is plenty of time to look around and not make a hasty decision but still have fun.
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