- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
I posted earlier about my Future Sister-In-Law (one of the BM’s) wanted dressier shoes than I envisioned for my wedding, and complaining that she could not find a style she liked in yellow.
I spent half of today posting various yellow shoes to my pinterest, spending a lot of time finding styles that were available in a 5 for one of my sisters. I picked a variety: wedges (which will be the most sensible for my outdoor wedding), flats, all ranges of heels, strappy, pumps, and shoes with decoration on the toe. I kept the prices, for the most part, $35-70.
Called my mother today and asked her to look through the shoe selections with my sisters (both in high school), and pick one to order asap since they have not even been looking, and sale styles are disappearing fast. Especially size 5’s.
They didn’t like ANY of them. They, too, like my Future Sister-In-Law, are determined to get satin dyable shoes, and apparently anything with a wedge or heel thicker than a stiletto is hideous to teens. I calmly explained that they would SINK into the grass, and their ankles would get tired from trying to balance during the ceremony, to no avail. One sister also refused to wear any shoe that had “brown” (on the heel or wedge, or visible on the side of the footbed). Nevermind the I DO NOT CARE if it has a brown heel, or a cork/wooden wedge.
Actually, one sister did like a shoe I picked – one that I put up before realizing it was $140. I was so excited that she liked something, I did another search and found a very similar style at Modcloth for a mere $35. She took one look and said it was ugly. It was the same color, same style, and virtuallly same heel height (1/2″ shorter). The only difference was the addition of a peep toe, which is more appropriate for a summer outdoor wedding anyway.
I am ready to pull out my hair and/or go elope. They are going to keep dragging their feet until there are no spring shoes left in their sizes, then go try to get shoes dyed at the last minute, my mother will pitch a fit about how expensive they are, and the girls will probably complain the whole time that they are not comfortable and their feet hurt.
I should add that dyable shoes are really NOT the look I wanted for my rustic, outdoor, summer wedding. I was going to let Future Sister-In-Law do it since she was being so dramatic over finding NOTHING in yellow she liked. Apparently, I’m the only person in the family who like classic, vintage, and cute. Everyone else is determined to wear sky high stiletto heels with fake diamonds or wrapped satin bows.
Here I thought I was being a nice, helpful bride, allowing them so much freedom and encouraging mismatched shoes in dressy/casual styles. Who knew they would be so unhappy about it!