Post # 1

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Busy bee
and…. a week ago i spoke to him on the phone and he said that there was something he needed to ask me regarding the wedding, but didn’t want to do it over the phone and would rather do it in person………. so after a week of wondering “OMG WHAT IS IT?” thinking that maybe he was going to ask me to do a speach (which i wouldn’t do if someone paid me a millions dollars lol… terrified of crowds) or maybe i was going to be asked to be a bridesmaid… then it was like what else could there be??
SO… last night Dad and his lady came over for dinner and a chat………. so they were telling us the little details that they were going to do for their simple beachfront wedding (between 45-60guests), THEN THE QUESTION DUM DUM DUMMMMMM!!! lol… they wanted to know if they could have the reception at our house *gulp* our place? really? i mean we dont have the flashests house… or the biggest. Dad was saying how he liked what we did with our bbq and wanted the same thing… then thats when i asked how many people they were going to have, and he was like about the same as you…maybe 50… LOL i was like “umm dad we had about 20 people” LOL so anyway i was thinking in my head that my husband, who is not a big fan of crowds or being social for that matter would hate the idea. so they left saying “we dont need an answer now so just think about it and talk with each other and let us know soon” soooo after they left i was expecting my husband to say something like “oh great… a bunch of people we dont know at our house” BUT instead to my surprise he said “that seems fine, It should be good…. better then having do to a speach or something haahah” SO if he’s fine with it then i guess i’m fine with it… but OMG approx 60ppl at our house *gulp* Major cleaning the weekend before hand.
They did say that they would make sure that the guests will only stay in the outside area and the room downstairs and won’t be walking through our house.
It’s a little scary… LOL at least we dont have to drive home from the reception HAHAHAHA!
I think i’m happy with what it actually turned out to be…. i’m glad i dont have to speak infront of a crowd.
My little brother is making their wedding cake.
Post # 3

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Blushing bee
Wow! There’s a big difference between 20 and 60! Good for you, though. I’m sure it will be lovely and very meaningful for your dad to have you and your brother play such central roles.
Post # 4

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Bumble Beekeeper
I think that will be a lot of fun! It will probably be a lot of work but I’m sure it will be worth it 🙂
Post # 5

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Busy bee
Well after they asked… i’m sure we had “OMG” faces LOL so they were saying “don’t worry there will be no work involved for you, we will have caters etc”
So i will speak to him on the weekend and say that we would love it if the reception is at our place…. still bit scary having 60 odd people at our place LOL.
They were making sure that we knew that they didn’t want us to organise food or set up etc and that they just wanted our place LOL…. guess thats a good thing… only thing is that it HAS to be good weather, it can’t rain because then its crap and there won’t be enough room for 60ppl unless they end up going into our house upstair etc… which we dont want. *fingers crossed for good weather on the 12th of Feb*
Post # 6

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Busy bee
update – It’s not going to be at our house anymore… thank god!
But i dont want to go to the wedding…. i spoke to my older brother and he told me something that is just horrible! i knew my dad could be a bit annoying and not think about what he says but omg @ what i got told.
When my dad took his soon-to-be wife over to my brothers to meet them… she went off to the toilet and dad leaned over to my brother and said “she may not be that attractive but she has money” my brother juse saw red and yelled in a whispering voice (if you know what i mean) “You are 67yrs old dad… i can’t believe your saying something like that” i took the swear words out of that but yeah… LIKE WTF?!?!?!?! i can’t believe that… when i spoke to mum she said “i’m sorry you have only just started finding out what your father is really like… i feel sorry for that woman, he’s just going to spend all her money”
Not happy…. i’m finding out little things about my dad that i’m hating so much but i can’t say anything to him because when i think about saying something i think about how old he is and that it would upset him and he is my dad and i dont want to do that… ya know?
It was my little brothers 21st the other weekend and i had everyone over at my mums place for a surprise party (my dad and his partner included) and he growled at my stepson for something he hadn’t even done yet… he doesn’t have anything to do with my stepchildren (i dont know why) and he here was growling at him…. he was telling him not to lose something…. but told him like 4 times even after my stepson said yes the first 2 times (he is 10yrs). ARGH that made me mad!
so not really looking forward to the wedding… neither is my big brother and sister-inlaw…… 🙁 I wish i could tell my little brother what dad really says but it would upset him… i think i should because i know dad uses him ALOT… he has found a loop hole to get my little brother to do anything… he says “It’s only a small favor… i’m very disappointed in you” and this is for anything…. even if he asks him pick up potatoe salad he’s “very disappointed in him” I told my mum that and she got teary eyed and said thats a big thing for my little brother… he doesn’t want to be a disappointment 🙁
Post # 7

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Busy bee
Just wanted to BUMP this because i dont want to start a new board but i’m not sure if anyway has read past my old first post