(Closed) OMG- My FI just told me he hates a mermaid dress…

posted 6 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Do I still get a mermaid dress?
    Yup- its your dream dress not his : (40 votes)
    22 %
    Nope- he is your FI and its his special day too. : (82 votes)
    46 %
    He should trust your judgement so get it if you love it : (57 votes)
    32 %
  • Post # 3
    2607 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    He hates mermaids.  So just skip the reception dress and put that money towards something you’ll BOTH enjoy.

    Post # 4
    1038 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

     I tried on lace dresses (wasn’t seriously looking the day I tried them on, just shopping) and sent a pic of myself in one to my Fiance. 



    His reply “yeah I’m not liking the one that makes you look like a giant doily”


    As much as I liked lace dresses I didn’t try another one on.  I want my Fiance to think I look stunning as I walk down the aisle, not like a doily.  I think you need to find something that you love that your Fiance will love as well. 

    Post # 5
    3697 posts
    Sugar bee

    Save yourself the $$ if he doesn’t like the style. Two full-on gowns for one wedding is one too many IMO. Just enjoy wearing the gown you have, or if you really want a reception dress, do something shorter, lighter, easier to dance in, rather than a mermaid gown.

    Post # 6
    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I have to agree with the PP’s that I would forgo the mermaid. If you still want a reception dress, just consider a different style for your fiance. After all, it is his day too, they are his wedding pictures too and you want him to love everything about what you’re wearing on that day. 

    Post # 7
    279 posts
    Helper bee

    If you already have an A line dress that you love I would just stick with that and forget having a mermaid reception dress that he will hate anyways.

    Post # 8
    6256 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @Miss Apricot:  I concur. Looks like an actual mermaid, as opposed to a trumpet or fit-n-flare, would be really hard to dance in anyway.

    Post # 9
    871 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    My Fiance said to me he hate the dresses that cling to my body. Well that’s what I’m wearing on the day! He will love me for me not for what I am wearing.

    Post # 10
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I’m not a fan of mermaid dresses either, but maybe go to a bridal shop and get photos of yourself in a bunch of different types of dresses (e.g. some A-lines, some mermaids, some ballgowns, etc.), then show them to him and see if he’s got any opinion. He may have just hated the look of the person on the Bee in the mermaid dress, but if he hates every mermaid dress you’re in, then maybe look at something else (or just wearing one dress for the whole day).

    Post # 11
    225 posts
    Helper bee

    @actime:  My fiance hates mermaids too…I showed him a picture of me in one and he thought I looked like a lampshade! Meantime, this was my initial vision for a dress…! I tried on others since than though and am now in love with other silhouettes!

    Post # 12
    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I think when it comes to your personal choice of clothing your opinion matters most. You have to wear the dress all night so you should love it. If you want a mermaid for your reception wear it!

    Post # 13
    2053 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @actime:  I’m sorry but I have to disagree with some of the previous posters here and I think you should get your dream dress. Maybe he hated the mermaid dress on that bride, but if he saw YOU, his one and only love, all dolled up walking toward HIM in that dress, I bet he’d be whistling a different tune. Further, from the way you write it, it sounds like he didn’t even know what a mermaid dress was until he saw it and it was pointed out to him, yes? If that’s the case, ye bridal gods forbid he sees someone else in an A line and suddenly he doesn’t like A lines — then what?

    If you don’t get the mermaid as a result of his comment, would you someday always wish you had as it was the dress you had your heard set on?

    I understand your wanting to be respectful of his opinion. However, his comment is based on a variable of some random chick wearing a mermaid gown. To therefore draw a conclusion as a mermaid dress would apply to YOU is only something that you know since you know the dress. What about him respecting your opinion? One that is based on your body and the fact that the mermaid looks good on YOU?



    Post # 15
    2335 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    If you’d already *purchased* the mermaid, or if you didn’t already own one dress, I’d say go with the mermaid. Howeverrr…

    If you are happy with your A-line, I see no reason to do a mermaid for the reception, considering your Fiance doesn’t like them.

    I actually had always pictured myself in a mermaid, and then Fiance said he didn’t like them. I was going to get one anyway, knowing he’d think I looked beautiful on our day no matter what I was wearing, but I ended up not liking them on myself, either.

    Fiance also told me he doesn’t really like lace, but guess what? My A-line has lace. But it’s a fresh, young lace. I know Fiance automatically equates lace with old women, but I know that’s going to be the FARTHEST thing from his mind when he sees me coming down the aisle in my gorgeous lace/tafetta/tulle gown.

    Bottom line? He’s gonna think you look like a million bucks no matter what.

    Post # 16
    225 posts
    Helper bee

    @rachelmichelle:  exactly! There are a gazillion different dresses out there that I am SURE will look beautiful on you, why buy the one silhoutte that you know your Fiance already mentioned he doesn’t like…the mermaid is a very distinct look that many people either love or hate…I realized that in my dress shopping experience, I also found that while I thought I loved the mermaid, it is not as comfortable as other styles and I actually ended up LOVING other silhouettes on me way more!

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