- 9 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
She just got back from visiting my grandma and grandpa.
My grandma did not recognize her at all. My bil is btw a surgeon. She didn’t recognize him and she’s known him since he was 10 years old.
My grandpa has lost quite a bit of weight (he’s also very thin to begin with. My grandma is unable to get out of bed now. She’s 88 and he’s 90. They’ve been married 70 years now.
My bil and sister, both crying after leaving, called me immediately as Jeff gave his opinion. He said “she doesn’t have much time left”. He was sobbing.
I am sobbing too and talking to my sis while I’m typing right now kinda in shock but I knew they had some considerable issues going on.
I got my hopes up when my grandpa’s kidney issues suddenly got a tad better (went from stage 5 to 4 renal failure). Now it’s all gone.
My grandmother has had recent hospitalizations and they were unsure why she’d been recently having blackout spells. CT’s and other scans done showed she is suffering from dementia and this week they finished tests. Alzheimer’s.
She isn’t eating again. She was in the hospital for a while back before the blackouts b/c she wasn’t eating. They have a home health nurse at their home 12 hours a day now.
I was just not ready for this call. Last time I got a call like this from my bil was when my dad was in cardiac arrest and he called me in the middle of the night saying “You’d better get to the hospital now” while crying then. My dad died an hour later so if he says somebody doesn’t have much time left then they don’t have much time left.
He said it wouldn’t be immediate but maybe 2 or 3 months at most. I’m on call this weekend at the damn hospital and I cannot leave to go to her side. I am so sad and I am not free to do what I want to do and go to her. My sis and I are just crushed. So is bil. I haven’t told T yet. My son is sobbing in the other room and there’s nothing I can do except pray with him and just hug him. He asked if grandma is in pain. I said no.
This is so damn hard letting go 2 of the closest people in the world. I lost my dad 10 years ago and my mom honestly is a flake and been mentally a teenager since he passed away so I felt like I lost my parents 10 years ago. She’s not close to me. But my grandparents? ALWAYS super close to me. Always.
They bought me my first car. They helped out when my sis and I were both going to private school and my dad was working 2 jobs and they are always just “there”. All my life they were and are there.
Please if you can, send out a prayer for my grandma. I don’t know what to do without her.