Post # 47
@FMK – I just saw this and I’m sorry things got so hectic! That’s great you found someone else though. I’ll bet they’ll be a much better fit for you guys. I also agree that you should not apologize for not being religious, nor do I think you were completely off base by asking him. Miscommunications are NOT fun but I suppose this is just a case of “all’s well that ends well.” I hope the rest of your planning goes a bit more smoothly from here out!
Post # 48
@caitlanc- Thanks for your kind words. I really should have laid out the WHOLE story in my OP but I was soo shocked at the time. I think I could have avoided some drama. I really was not aware of his religious commitment or that he was a “Christian minister”. Oh well. Problem solved.
Post # 49
We are also planning a non-religious ceremony so it is interesting to read about the problems that others have experienced with secular weddings, I’m starting to get a little worried now!
I think I’ve learned from your experience and others I’ve read to be very careful about discussing your beliefs at the beginning so you don’t have an officiant change their mind.
Also, I was wondering if any kind of a contract was signed… and if so you could hold him legally responsible if you had to drastically alter your plans?