(Closed) OMG only a little over a month…still CLUELESS… LONG

posted 7 years ago in August 2011
Post # 3
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204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@zebra060708: i’m sorry your stressed! and sometimes the big wedding doesn’t happen if you do what you’re talking about. life gets in the way, and pushes it back. just make it a PRIORITY to have the wedding i.e.: start planning the big shebang right after you move in with him after the civil ceremony. things will work out for you as long as you MAKE them. 🙂 good luck!

Post # 4
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I, too, wanted a huge fancy wedding- but I’ve since come to the realization that if I was to have a huge wedding, I’d be inviting people that I haven’t seen/talked to in more than 6 month  or tons of people that I feel “obligated” to invite. I began planning my wedding 5 days  ago, and my wedding is set for Aug. 12 of this year!  It feels like I’m rushing, but I’m getting a lot done  and have little time to second guess myself. It can be done! If you truly want that big fancy wedding, then wait. Listen to your intuition. Good Luck!

Post # 5
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752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I imagine you wouldnt get your big dream wedding if you have a smaller one now…other things come up…buying a house, children, etc.

I think if you hold off on marrying him now PURELY because of a party…then…well that seems shallow.  IMO the pageantry shouldnt be the sole reason for holding off on marrying the man you will promise to love and cherish for the rest of your life.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i feel like if its something thats important to you, then you’ll make it happen! and it seems like it is very important to you which i can definitly understand! things might change after you have your small wedding and you might decide that you dont want a big wedding anymore! but, i wouldnt let it stress you out, just take everything one step at a time and focus on your small upcoming wedding for now, and enjoy every minutre of it, and then focus on your big one!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would recommend having a smaller wedding now, and then maybe having a larger vow renewal in 2013 when you originally planned? That way you can do both 🙂

Post # 9
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1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Honestly? I would wait. 

You can move to Delaware & get your own place (which, in all honesty, your dad should pay for. It’s his issue). You can have a LDR. You can tell your dad that you’re an adult and are going to be moving in with your Fiance as an engaged couple whether he likes it or not.

I know it sucks to wait, but why the huge rush all of a sudden from your FI? Just seems odd to me, thats all. 

Post # 10
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762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

That’s definatly stressful! Yes you can have a small wedding now, and a larger wedding later, OR do what my cousin did and have the ceremony (small with only very close family), then have a big reception next year. As wonderful as it would be, in reality (and I think it’s setting in with all us August brides) that August is just a few weeks away and there’s A LOT to do if you were planning both the same day from scratch. If I were you, I’d have the ceremony then way for the reception, it would be easiest and you two will be married 🙂

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

You mentioned he was in the Air Force, does he live on base? You’d have to be married to move in with him if he does. If that’s case, I would consider getting married now and doing the vow renewal at a later date. If he lives off base, move in with him when you want to (even if it’s now) and wait to get married until you’re able to have the wedding you want. If you’re ready to get married you should be able to make your own decisions on where you live. Your parents no longer have a say.

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