Post # 1
So, I vented about this a little in the open vent thread, but one of my pet peeves is people who do not respect the personal bubble.
I have a new cowoker who is a close-stander. She will stand like, 6 inches from me while I am trying to work, when there are other things she should be doing, and just WATCH me. It is incredibly irritating.
While she is obviously in my bubble, especially since I’m trying to WORK rather than hang out and chat, I think I also have a larger personal bubble than most people. I think this has to do with being very short. I can’t stand it when taller people stand close to me, so that I have to crane my neck up to talk to them, or feel like they are trying to intimidate me by towering over me.
What is your personal bubble like? Are you an infringer like my coworker, who is unable to take a hint? How do you enforce your own bubble?
Post # 3
I def. have a bubble, but I’ve come to realize that some people come by their non-existant bubbles through culture. I dont mean to make generalizations, but I notice that many Italians and Greeks really do not seem to have a bubble and like to stand as close as possible, and they dont seem to see anything wrong with it. Sometimes I will try to back up a little, but sometimes I will just grin and bear it if I’m trying to make a good impression or something.
Post # 4
Ohhhh…. personal space. Yup. I’m sensitive to this, too. I find myself needing to take a step back when talking with people. There’s got to be a Seinfield episode about this!
Post # 5
I have been known to literally push people out of my bubble.
Unless you are a friend of mine, dont get with in 2 feet of me. I seriously don’t like it.
Though standing in queue does not bother me until I can hear them breathing.
Post # 6
Oh, I definitely hate people getting too close to me. Or even talking to me, really, when I’m clearly busy doing something. Space, space, space. The only person I let near me is Fiance…and sometimes I even want space from him. Since I live in the South, a lot of people think hugging/hand-shaking/etc is perfectly normal from a perfect stranger….but NO. It. Is. Not. Okay. Ever.
Post # 7
What really pisses me off is when I go to the market or bank. The person behind me feels the need to be close enough to sniff my hair! Get away from me person I don’t know!
Post # 8
OMG i’m the same way!! We have open office seating so no cubes and I HATE it when people cut really close behind me when they’re walking by. Having a reflective picture frame and pushing my chair back while getting up has gotten a few to get the point….
I tend to turn and use my chair to help block people and use it to nudge people behind a few inches… Aka push chair farther back and sit on the edge.
Post # 9
I totally have a bubble!! I’m quiet though, so you’ll just see me like, inching backwards and creeping away if someone’s too close….lol
Post # 10
Yeah, I don’t mind if it a queue or an elevator or something where it is expected, but when working there is NO NEED to be all up in my personal bubble.
The first time I met her, I wasn’t sure what about her rubbed me the wrong way, but it did not take me long to figure it out! It is all I can do not to physically push her away or elbow her in the gut when she does this! And if I just tell her to back off because she is annoying me, I will come across as a b**** to the newbie.
Post # 11
I am a fan of my own personal space. I want very few people to be near me and I’m only ok with FH and my family. I don’t really like being super close to my friends. Being at the store drives me nuts. A few nights ago I was waiting in line and this girl kept stepping closer and closer to me until I thought if I stepped back an inch I might step on her. Finally I asked her if there was a reason she kept moving closer seeing as the line wasn’t moving. She looked at me like I was nuts, but I don’t want to feel the breath of the person behind me.
Post # 12
I hate when people get too close to me! The worst is when you are in a lineup and you move an inch and the person is right behind you..its like buddy I’m moving up to get further from you not because the line is moving!!!!
Post # 13
LOL I totally didnt even realize I wrote the same situation as you! I guess there are many people who hate this as much as I do!
Post # 14
OMG! Just recently this girl started working in our department! She literally started out petting me, touching my back, hair, etc. One day she came up and squeezed me! I do not want ppl touching me, not a touchy person. My bubble is huge. I said to her You are a touch feely person huh? She said yeah get used to it. I told her I am NOT! She just laughed. My husband doesn’t even touch me that much in a day. WEIRD and Im not happy!!!! She needs to go away
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- Wedding: December 2012 - Hacienda los Agaves
I’m short to so it bothers me to stand next to tall people on intimate moments I can be toucing with the other person and it’s ok but even qhen walking on the street I’m pretty good at the don’t touch me dance.