(Closed) OMG — snoring

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You and I are living the same life! LOL My guy snores like a freight train. My solution is earplugs. I searched for the ones that have the highest decibal level protection. And really, once they are in, I can still hear him a little bit but it’s not enough that it prevents me from sleeping. I did have to turn up the volumn on my alarm clock to the highest setting though, so I do hear it. But it really has saved our relationship. If I still have problems sleeping I take a benedryl, and that usually does the trick.  

On a side note-if he is snoring that badly, you might have him do a sleep test, maybe he has apnea. My guy did one and they said he was borderline but didn’t think he needed a machine. They actually told him if he lost a little weight it would get better. So that is what he is working on now.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Does he sleep on his back? That is when my Fiance is the worst.  I probably tell him 10 times a night to roll on his side.  He gets aggravated at me while he’s asleep, but doesn’t actually remember it in the morning.  Also, if it’s really dry in our bedroom it is about 100 times worse.  Last night I woke up due to his snoring, and realized the humidifier wasn’t on.  Once there was a little moisture in the air, his breathing/snoring was much better.

 

@SandyThePoet:  I agree about the Apnea thing…Fiance is also borderline, and it doesn’t help that he is a 320lb powerlifter!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Another thing is either a white noise machine or a fan. I do also have a fan in our room, pointed away from us. It keeps the air circulating and more important to me, provides sort of a white noise which helps some. I agree about the moist air thing. I notice his snoring is worse now than it was in the summer time when it was humid. I may put a humidifier in our room and see if that helps too.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

While the issue is certainly his, I’ve remedied this situation for myself with ear plugs.  I got them at Target in the Pharmacy area.  It definitely helps me sleep better.  Perhaps you might want to try this?!?!?

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I am right there with ALL of you. My Fiance doesnt necessarily snore that loud but breaths with his mouth open and snores. The combination is enough to KILL ME. When he stays with me he always sleeps on the couch because he knows it bothers me, but I feel horrible. I need to invest in some serious ear plugs before we get married. I have tried to convince him to try nose strips or something but he refuses. I hope that you all figure out solutions to this little problem!

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper

My ex was a massive snorer – he was overweight and had sleep apnea.  He snored so loud, you could hear him outside…. that kind of snoring.  If we ever slept in the same room, I had to start out with earplugs.   I hated it.  I had decided, if we were to marry, he’d have to sleep in another room (and I’d probably STILL need earplugs).  There’s just no way I could live like that.

I think it’s strange he’s in denial about his snoring… to the point he claims you are making things up.  

Darling Husband snores from time to time, but no where on the scale as my ex – and usually a nudge for him to roll over will stop the snoring.

I totally feel your pain – sleep is SO IMPORTANT!!!!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@ScooterBride:  My husband is a big snorer too.  And he will insist he’s not snoring because he’s awake… So I started taping him.  He believes me now.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m in the opposite boat because I’m the snorer! Honestly, I felt embarrassed when my Fiance told me because I was thinking wow, how can I stop it. It takes a few days to sink in because at first, I really didn’t know what to do about it. I would have a gentle conversation expressing your concern and definitely suggest seeing a doctor. Like the PPs said, sleep apnea is serious and especially since there are ways of treating it, you definitely want to look into it. 

Keep up the conversation and make sure you don’t take a tone that you are making fun of him. I don’t really understand why he doesn’t believe you but maybe he was embarrassed like I was. Sleep is important and I would explain that this is a serious issue. That’s not good when you have to leave the room. If he claims he is awake the whole time, why is he playing it up then and making you have miserable nights? 

Good Luck to you!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Ear plugs are a godsend! My Fiance snores so bad. My Dad works at a steel mill and he brings me bags of them at a time. They actually encourage you to take them home with you to use while you are cutting the grass, using powertools, anything that is very loud and can infect your hearing.

Post # 13
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7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@ScooterBride: you can get super duper earplugs in the sporting goods section (think gun range)

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Thank God my Fiance only snores when he’s sleeping on his back, or when he’s had a little too much to drink. All I need to do is poke him, say ” you’re snoring”, and roll him over. In two minutes we’re both back asleep , peacefull as ever. My father though, snores like crazy! When I lived at home, even though he slept upstairs and I was downstairs, I had to make sure to fall asleep before him- it was that bad! I don’t know how my mother sleeps in the same room! It would drive me crraaazy. All this is to say…. I feel for you. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

OMG – I think we’re living the same life… My FI’s snoring is progressively getting worse and he claimed I was making it, he was awake the whole time, etc.

At first, I was nice about it. I would gently nudge him, just to get him to stop for five minutes so I could get to sleep. (Like you, if I can get to sleep first, it usually doesn’t bother me.) I would try rubbing his back too, just to disturb his sleep enough to get him to stop. We both work full time and put in long hours, so I didn’t want to wake him if I didn’t have to.

That was at first. As I said, it has progressively gotten worse and has even started waking me up in the middle of the night. Now I pretty much smack him or give him a firm – boarder-line hard- shove to get him to shut up. He still *claims* I am making it up, but he knows he snores like a banshee. We have finally gotten to the point that if his snoring gets to be too much, I flat out wake him up and he goes in the guest room. Not ideal, but we both need sleep. 

We haven’t had a sleep apnea test done yet, but I foresee that in our future for sure. My suggestion for you is, if he has insomnia, he should see a doctor about that – there may be some medicine they can prescribe for him. Also, try to have a calm, serious conversation about how his snoring affects you and your relationship. 

Good luck!

 

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m sorry, but I’m giggling over here, because my Fiance is KNOWN to snore like, as some of you have said, a freight train.  The jokes his friends say would leave you doubled over in laughter! 

They also can’t figure out how I manage to sleep with him when he’s known to snore!

His problem, however, was continous horrible sinus infections.  He had to have surgery for it and, though it’s better, it can still be loud. 

He’s actually QUITER when I’m snuggled up next to him, believe it or not!

I’d suggest pestering him until he tries something.  Or stick it on him after he’s gone to sleep (devious? yes, I am! LOL!). 

but, yeah, can sympathize with the snoring.  It will sometimes wake me up, too. 🙁

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