Post # 1
I am freaking out and could really use some advice and perspective. Is buyer’s remorse normal when it comes to wedding dresses? Is this a huge sign that I made a mistake??
This is what happened…I’ve been trying on dresses for months — I think I’ve gone dress shopping at least 10 times. I was very set on an alencon lace, mermaid type dress, and that’s pretty much all that I tried on. These dresses were all gorgeous and I liked how I looked in them, but they never felt *right*. Last week, I randomly picked a dress off the rack that was completely different — all silk, no lace, even had a ribbon/bow (Melissa Sweet). I tried it on and I LOVED it…it just felt so me, and I could really see myself in it on my wedding day, if that makes sense. I didn’t want to take it off, and I think I tried it back on three times that same appointment! The next day, I went to a different store to try on the dress I thought I really wanted (alencon, mermaid Jim Hjelm), as well as a few other lacey dresses, and realized that I didn’t want it at all compared to the Melissa Sweet. I could not get the Melissa Sweet dress out of my head!
So yesterday I went back and bought the Melissa Sweet. Luckily for me, I was able to get the sample so I saved about $2000 and spent much less than I had originally budgeted for my dress. But I’ve been really stressed about the dress for some reason! I keep on wondering if there is something else out there better for me, if I made the right decision, if my dress looks too prom-y, etc. I don’t really get why I’m feeling this way when I was so in love with the dress and I love how it looks on me. It’s really worrying me, and I feel a bit stupid for feeling like this! Has anyone ever felt this way? What should I do?
Post # 3
I think it’s normal to feel this way! You’ve had in your head what you want to be THE dress, and the one that IS isn’t what you thought it would be! The fact that you “felt like you” and could see yourself in it on your wedding day and didn’t want to take it off…THAT is what makes it the right dress for you! Give it a little time to sink in.
And post a picture so we can all ooh and ahh
Post # 4
oh am i ever in the same boat as you right now. i had a full on mental break down and tears flooding the place infront of my fiance last week! and the poor guy i couldnt even tell him what was wrong because i dont want him to know anything about my gown.
the dress i have purchased is actually a grad dress, there is a wedding gown version. i thought for years that i wanted a gown with no train, partially now because of the location of the wedding. but thinking about it, watching say yes to the dress, has made me regret my choice of not getting the wedding dress version which has a chapel train. the other issue is that i wanted my gown to not have bead work on the top and i even asked the ladies helping me if this was possible. later i found out that if i had ordered the wedding gown verion i could have ordered it without the beading! and saved! UGH!!!!! if i had know that i would have gone with the wedding dress version probably instantly.
currently i am in talks with the store i got the dress from, and thank goodness they have been so helpful! they have sent a request out for an estimate on the wedding gown without beading. they are willing for me to exchange but i will loose 20% of what i paid, and the rest of my money will go towards the new gown.
i am going to go back to the store with my mom and compare the two versions to make a final decision. fun fun fun!
Post # 5
I could have written this post! I actually haven’t purchased my dress yet (I wanted to lose a little more weight first). BUT, I was originally looking at all strapless A line dresses with beading on the train and beading on the bodice. I had my eye on a Ream Acra dress (the store was going out of business so I could have gotten a great deal). Then I randomly tried on a Lazaro dress with a beautiful beaded bodice, beaded straps, a very full A-line skirt and zero beading on the train. And my Mom started crying and my friend was saying, “this is it, this is it”. And I did feel beautiful, but it took me a bit to warm up to it (since it wasn’t what I was originally looking for. When the sales girl put on a very embellished veil, I though “I’m getting married in this dress”. But now I’m worried the skirt is too full, and that I really like it because my Mom and friend were so in love with the dress.
I think I’m going to go dress shopping again, and see if I still love it.
I really understand where you are coming from. If you had that strong of a reaction the first time, then I think you bought the right dress. Sometimes it just takes a while to wrap your mind around the idea that you changed your original concept for your wedding.
Post # 6
Your feelings are totally normal and I definitely think that you made the right decision. It is clear that this is the right gown for you because you have shopped around and it sounds like nothing else has compared to your gown. Plus, you felt that it was the one and felt like yourself…I think that will definitely show on your wedding day! 🙂
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
Try not to obsess over it too much or you’ll drive yourself nuts. Fo’ realz.
Post # 8
me too… but i think i’m going to buy the dress this saturday…haha. i just can’t bear to do any more dress shopping. i’m all shopped out. i actually started dreading going to my last one because i hate being fitted, standing there, and knowing that the dress i’m wearing is 5 sizes too big and won’t look the same on me in my size. so i’m just going to be done with it! i’m pretty sure i love(d) it??? well at least, i loved it when i posted that i was going to buy it a month ago. i don’t know if my feelings have changed. but whatever! i’m done with shopping!
Post # 9
It seems to me that you found “THE ONE!” I originally wanted an all lace Jim Hjelm dress too (I had all the pictures ripped from mags to show the bridal consultant) and when I tried them on I didn’t like it so much. I thought I was going to get an all lace dress but I ended up with an all satin, no lace, no beading Jim Hjelm instead. It’s not at all what I thought I was gonna wear! So it’s normal to change your mind or over think the dress! But, I think you’ll always go back to your Melissa Sweet dress! Besides you got a great deal, who can argue with that!
Note to self: Don’t try on anymore dresses!!
Post # 10
Thank you so much, everyone!! It’s nice to know that I’m not alone and that others have felt this way too! I’m still a little stressed but I think I’m going to just sit on it for a week or so and then see how I feel. I feel like there’s just so much pressure to find the “PERFECT” dress…and it’s so different from what I had always imagined my wedding dress to look like!
Texasmeredith, good luck! You still have options and time, I’m sure you will find the perfect dress for you.
Anvil chick, good luck! It sounds like the store is trying to accommodate you and help you out, so that’s good.
My dress is the Melissa Sweet Katya — it looks so plain and baggy on the model, but it looks completely different on. I’m also having it altered so that it’s more of a flowy trumpet.
Post # 11
Oops forgot to attach a picture.
Post # 12
Sorry, I’m totally blowing up this post — what do you guys think of the bow? I’m going to have it made into a detachable bow. I love the little girly detail it adds but I’m not sure if it’s TOO girly/too much bow?
Post # 13
I LOVE the dress.
And not too girlie at all.
If anything, I’d say it’s JUST girlie enough.
I LOVE it.
I don’t think I’ve seen that many dresses period that I like as well as I like that one.
now I have dress remorse. lol.
Post # 14
I absolutely LOVE the bow – and I’m not much of a bow girl, so that says alot! haha! Its just enough girl without being too girly (if you catch my drift). The gown is so beautiful!
Post # 15
BEAUTIFUL!!! I like the bow, but am also a fan of the large brooch…maybe that would be something to consider?
It’s beautiful – looks like a keeper to me 🙂
Post # 16
LOVE the dress, LOVE the bow! It’s unique and fresh. Keep it!