(Closed) omg…dress remorse?!??

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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235 posts
Helper bee

I think it’s normal to feel this way!  You’ve had in your head what you want to be THE dress, and the one that IS isn’t what you thought it would be!  The fact that you “felt like you” and could see yourself in it on your wedding day and didn’t want to take it off…THAT is what makes it the right dress for you!  Give it a little time to sink in.

And post a picture so we can all ooh and ahh Wink

Post # 4
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307 posts
Helper bee

oh am i ever in the same boat as you right now. i had a full on mental break down and tears flooding the place infront of my fiance last week! and the poor guy i couldnt even tell him what was wrong because i dont want him to know anything about my gown.

the dress i have purchased is actually a grad dress, there is a wedding gown version. i thought for years that i wanted a gown with no train, partially now because of the location of the wedding. but thinking about it, watching say yes to the dress, has made me regret my choice of not getting the wedding dress version which has a chapel train. the other issue is that i wanted my gown to not have bead work on the top and i even asked the ladies helping me if this was possible. later i found out that if i had ordered the wedding gown verion i could have ordered it without the beading! and saved! UGH!!!!! if i had know that i would have gone with the wedding dress version probably instantly.

currently i am in talks with the store i got the dress from, and thank goodness they have been so helpful! they have sent a request out for an estimate on the wedding gown without beading. they are willing for me to exchange but i will loose 20% of what i paid, and the rest of my money will go towards the new gown.

i am going to go back to the store with my mom and compare the two versions to make a final decision. fun fun fun!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

I could have written this post!  I actually haven’t purchased my dress yet (I wanted to lose a little more weight first).  BUT, I was originally looking at all strapless A line dresses with beading on the train and beading on the bodice.  I had my eye on a Ream Acra dress (the store was going out of business so I could have gotten a great deal).  Then I randomly tried on a Lazaro dress with a beautiful beaded bodice, beaded straps, a very full A-line skirt and zero beading on the train.  And my Mom started crying and my friend was saying, “this is it, this is it”.  And I did feel beautiful, but it took me a bit to warm up to it (since it wasn’t what I was originally looking for.  When the sales girl put on a very embellished veil, I though “I’m getting married in this dress”.  But now I’m worried the skirt is too full, and that I really like it because my Mom and friend were so in love with the dress.

I think I’m going to go dress shopping again, and see if I still love it.

I really understand where you are coming from.  If you had that strong of a reaction the first time, then I think you bought the right dress.  Sometimes it just takes a while to wrap your mind around the idea that you changed your original concept for your wedding.

Post # 6
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955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Your feelings are totally normal and I definitely think that you made the right decision. It is clear that this is the right gown for you because you have shopped around and it sounds like nothing else has compared to your gown. Plus, you felt that it was the one and felt like yourself…I think that will definitely show on your wedding day! 🙂

Post # 7
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4382 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

Totally normal.

 

Try not to obsess over it too much or you’ll drive yourself nuts. Fo’ realz.

Post # 8
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37 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

me too… but i think i’m going to buy the dress this saturday…haha.  i just can’t bear to do any more dress shopping. i’m all shopped out. i actually started dreading going to my last one because i hate being fitted, standing there, and knowing that the dress i’m wearing is 5 sizes too big and won’t look the same on me in my size. so i’m just going to be done with it! i’m pretty sure i love(d) it???  well at least, i loved it when i posted that i was going to buy it a month ago. i don’t know if my feelings have changed. but whatever! i’m done with shopping!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

It seems to me that you found “THE ONE!”  I originally wanted an all lace Jim Hjelm dress too (I had all the pictures ripped from mags to show the bridal consultant) and when I tried them on I didn’t like it so much.  I thought I was going to get an all lace dress but I ended up with an all satin, no lace, no beading Jim Hjelm instead.  It’s not at all what I thought I was gonna wear!  So it’s normal to change your mind or over think the dress!  But, I think you’ll always go back to your Melissa Sweet dress!  Besides you got a great deal, who can argue with that!

Note to self:  Don’t try on anymore dresses!!

Post # 13
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133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I LOVE the dress.
It’s stunning.
And not too girlie at all.
If anything, I’d say it’s JUST girlie enough.
Geez.
I LOVE it.
I don’t think I’ve seen that many dresses period that I like as well as I like that one.

now I have dress remorse.  lol.

Post # 14
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40 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I absolutely LOVE the bow – and I’m not much of a bow girl, so that says alot! haha! Its just enough girl without being too girly (if you catch my drift). The gown is so beautiful!

Post # 15
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235 posts
Helper bee

BEAUTIFUL!!!  I like the bow, but am also a fan of the large brooch…maybe that would be something to consider?

It’s beautiful – looks like a keeper to me 🙂

Post # 16
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2030 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

LOVE the dress, LOVE the bow! It’s unique and fresh. Keep it!

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