(Closed) omg…i’m freaking out. panic attack mode. HELP!

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Wait… the 35 people were the last you heard from your future family? I’m just making sure I’m not confused, you added more because you figured they would only have this many guests? Did they add more you did not know of after you had discussed this? 

If you only sent out the 35 and they wanted more and you cannot afford to invite more….. stick to your guns. I’m sorry this happened and hope I am not misunderstanding this, but that’s all you can really do in my opinion. If FF added more guests you could not afford, they should offer to pay for them. Either way, I’m really sorry you’re going through this! 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@SimplyChic11:  It sounds like a technical glitch made the Father-In-Laws think they had uploaded all of their names, but they actually hadnt.  OP thought the list looked a little short, but went with it and added more people from a B list so to speak.

ACK!  This is really a predicament.  You cant uninvite the people you have already invited, even if you wouldnt have invited them in the first place.  Im sorry, I really dont have any suggestions.  Unless your Father-In-Laws are willing to help out with the cost of their technical error, I cant see how you can get out of it without just enlarging your guest list.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Agree with all of the above. If u cant afford to invite the people that didnt end up on the list,then theres nothing u can do about it. Tell them sorry, but unless they can pay,then u have to say no. U cant afford what u cant afford.Its as simple as that. Its not rude, its just a fact.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Don’t forget that not everyone will come!  Did you send out RSVP cards? If I was you I would send out the other invites and if you did send out RSVP cards as they come back you will have a better idea of how many people you will have there!!

Good luck!!!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Any chance the Future In-Laws could help y’all out since it’s their guests that are breaking your budget? Just a thought…

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

AHH ok. Eek that’s crazy. 

I agree you cannot un-invite people. I would get together with your FIL’s and explain what happened and how it affects the budget. 🙁 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@kissa2727: Let your FH handle the conversation; they’re his parents remember! 🙂 Good luck!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Ask the Future In-Laws to prioritize their list by importance, and have those invitations on standby as soon as the No’s start rolling in.  If you can, try to squeeze in maybe 5 of their important people, as a gesture…

Would they be willing to pitch in to increase the numbers?

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