- 10 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
Okay..so first of all I have lived on the emo board these last couple of days, this is the only place I can express myself to others with no judgement and no raised eyebrows and im not alone thank goodness!! My wedding is in Oct, less than 3 months away. and I feel like my emotions and stress levels are going to crazy town.
I have an issue with my bff/moh. Her sister and a fellow Bridesmaid or Best Man, whom I have always been friends with, seem like her and I have been getting closer this year, I supported her through a really rough time in her life and feel like we have bonded over it. My Maid/Matron of Honor on the other hand, has NOT supported her sister through this time and therefore they are not talking very much and have alot of animosity towards each other right now. I feel like I am in the middle of all their arguments because they both text me about each other, and I just try to give the best advice without making them more mad at each other.
So anyways, her sis/my Bridesmaid or Best Man tells me that Maid/Matron of Honor has been making comments about me behind my back, that im turning “crazy” over my wedding.When um, all I did was question her about shower plans because we need to get the invites out and Bridesmaid or Best Man told me she had no plans whatsoever yet. Well, that was last week and Maid/Matron of Honor is on it now. Then she makes little snide comments (we instant message each other at work) as if my questions are dumb and she doesnt care..shes not supporting me. Even if the question is stupid or dumb u are supposed to be my friend and support me!
Now I just got a call from one of my other BMs and she casually asked me what I thought of the shoes that Maid/Matron of Honor picked out for them (btw, MOH decided all girls needed to have the same dress and same shoes..i told her if every girl agrees im fine with ..ur the ones wearing them and paying for them not me!) i asked..what shoes? i didnt get an email! We decided that the shoes were going to be silver….the dresses are eggplant.
all of a sudden, she has shoes picked out for all the girls, and not only did she not CC me on the email she did not tell me they picked out shoes, or that she picked out black ones!! so when my other bm asked me if i liked them and that they are cute, but black..i was so surprised.
Why didnt my Maid/Matron of Honor involve me in this? Can I or should I even veto their shoes and make them get silver? Am i overreacting about a little detail? After all, they are paying for them and wearing them not me…but black? really? why wasnt i informed of this change of shoe color?? why am i even mad? i didnt want to become a crazy bride and before i speak to her i feel like i need to see what u all say first..thanks :o[