(Closed) On a lighter side, my dad thinks I’m a gold digger because I want a big ring!

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: What type of ring do you want?
    A biggun'! : (40 votes)
    42 %
    Eh, anything is fine! : (45 votes)
    47 %
    Something non-diamond. : (7 votes)
    7 %
    I don't even want a ring. : (3 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    If you want a big shining bling on your right finger, you deserve it.  Who am I or anyone else to judge you for wanting what you want?  You go girl is what I say!  Say what you want and you’ll get it.  Me, I want the rose gold setting with a pink sapphire center stone.  Mister thought I was the 2 carat Tiffany diamond ring girl.  I do love me some Tiffany jewlery and that should explain is train of thought.  But, nope, I just want something simple.  Your idea sounds beautiful though. 

    Post # 4
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    472 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Well I have my ring but before he gave it to me I swore that size didn’t matter and a small stone was fine but now that I have my 1+ct. ring I LOVE IT and couldn’t imagine anything different πŸ™‚

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee

    lol. i’ll most likely be getting a halo style ring either platinum or paladium [white gold is also an option but neither one of us is too exicted about the prospect of having to get the ring redipped to maintain the color], not sure what shape though. and i think it’ll be 1 carat and less. 1.25 carat looked okay but 1.5 was pushing it into garish looking territory on my hand.

    there was this one halo set ring that looked kind of like a buckle…it’s hard to describe but they nicknamed it the buckle ring. haha, well my guy REALLY loved that one so i think i might get a similar ring like that [he did mention in passing that the store didn’t have it anymore and actually pouted!]

    Post # 6
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    lol! i wanted a bigger diamond but didn’t want to wait forever to get it, so i went with a 3 stone ring with channel set diamonds on the band to get that extra SPARKLE πŸ™‚ good on you for knowing what you want and not feeling bad about it!!

    Post # 7
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    Helper bee

    Welllll, everyone is different, and I am going to be the voice of dissent here!  I knew that if I was with someone who thought it was ok to spend more than $2000 on a piece of metal, that we did not share the same priorities.  I gave my Fiance a $1500 cap.  I am very happy with my ring and even happier he didn’t go into debt!

    Post # 8
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I don’t think anyone should necessary judge your desire for a huge ring.  If he can afford it comfortably, go for it.  I so understand wanting something you love since you’ll be wearing it for a long time.  I just never wanted to stress my guy out by making a declaration as to what size was necessary.  I think in the end you’ll love it regardless of what it looks like because its YOUR ring and he put his all into getting it for you and then giving it to you (which I’ve heard is stressful lol). 

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Quite frankly my dear, I don’t give a damn about diamonds! They’re the pop stars of the gem world; sparkly and shiny, but lacking in personality and found everywhere. I guess that makes me a hippy. But a happy hippy. πŸ™‚

    I loooove emeralds. I’ve been really drawn to three stone rings lately, and prefer diamonds as accents/halos/pave bands.

    Post # 10
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I don’t think wants are (hardly) every inappropriate, but priorities might be. Wanting a big ol’ ring? Not a problem. Making your Fiance go far into debt and jeaopardizing your futures to get it? Not good. 

    As long as he can afford it, I see no problem with it. πŸ™‚ 

    Post # 11
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    i think it depends on where you are in your life.  i was a girl that demanded 2 carats or better (and i got it, too bad it was from the wrong guy lol)… now i would LOVE the tiffany legacy aquamarine or amethyst, but i’d KILL M if he spent that much on it. i would much rather him get me a great gemstone ring with substantial size, and use the rest on advertising for either of our businesses.  the one i’m looking at is almost 3 carats (gemstone) and costs less than 200 bucks, so my kind of bling AND my kind of price!!!

    also mmmtacos if you don’t care about a wedding, which is at least 3,000 for the most modest type, that gives you more size on your ring, you know?

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I wanted a “bigun” and luckily my Fiance felt that I deserved one and he could afford to provide it. If he wasn’t able to afford it easily…I would have been happy with whatever he got me.

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @hellohellohello – I so agree with you.  I wouldn’t do well with someone okay with spending $10k on an engagement ring.  I would insist on taking it back and getting something more affordable.  Especially since I know mister can’t afford it.  Also, I’d think about him getting into debt for the ring and me actually paying the bill during our marriage.  Nope… been there done that.  Even if he could afford to pay cash for a $10k or more ring, I would not feel comfortable with him doing that.  I make pretty decent money, but I am extremely frugal.  So frugal, my family calls me Cheapo!  I save like 30% (after 401k and ira contributions, so it might be more like 45%) of my income and if Mister is spending like that, he is not saving at the levels I think my husband should.  So, I totally am with you on this, “spend more than $2000 on a piece of metal, that we did not share the same priorities.”

    Post # 15
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    @mmmtacos: GO BIG OR GO HOME LOL!!! i think that applies for most of us southern gals!!

    Post # 16
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I wanted – and got – a big ring. Nine carats, to be exact.

    Before any of you scream and pass out…it’s an amethyst, and worth well under a grand. I like my rocks big, but diamonds are my mom’s thing, not mine.

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