Post # 1
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2731 posts
Sugar bee
How tacky is putting an insert with your registry info on it in your invitations? Not talking about printing it right on the actual invitation, but maybe adding a little card saying where you’re registered.
I’m asking, because I’ve always been under the impression that it’s just not done and that registry info gets spread by word of mouth, HOWEVER, my BFF who got married in October put a little paper in with her invites with their registry information on it. And it seems like my fiance’s whole family has never heard of a damn wedding registry so I’m wondering if maybe the only way they’ll buy us anything we actually need/want is to have it right there in front of them in black and white. It’s obviously not a huge deal, I just want to know what you guys think. Did anyone do it or plan to do it?
And to clarify, I’ve been a bee long enough to know that the word tacky is generally frowned upon, but I couldn’t think of another way to phrase it. So I apologize in advance if anyone is offended. I just want honest opinions, so I’ve included a poll so people don’t have to comment if they don’t want to!
Post # 3
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1319 posts
Bumble bee
Whoever is throwing your shower can send along info…I wouldn’t personally but I know that different rules apply to different situations. I like the idea of placing a link to your wedding website that has registry info available on it for those who are looking
Post # 4
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11697 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
@CarolinaCola: I’m not doing it, but most of the weddings I’ve been to where the couple is registered they have included a card. People have been asking so we’ve been telling them. Our parents know and it will be on our wedding website. I voted a 5 – I think it kind of depends on how it’s done. I personally find the little cards (like 2″ square) that are given out by the popular store here aren’t that bad, but the poems and things that some people do, I find to be in poor taste – not all, just some.
Post # 5
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576 posts
Busy bee
I know you’re not supposed to, but it doesn’t seem that bad. As a guest, I’d appreciate it.
As a bride, I’m not doing it just because I don’t want to get crap for it…but we will have an insert about our wedding website, and the registry info will be there.
Post # 6
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839 posts
Busy bee
@CarolinaCola: I think there is an easy way around this – include a link to your wedding website on your invitation and post your registry infor there. No tackiness.
Post # 7
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2731 posts
Sugar bee
@orchidblooms: See, I don’t think I’ll have a shower and we don’t have a website (didn’t feel the need for one). Those are good ideas, though!
@MsGinkgo: Yeah, I feel like those poems are little much, but I believe the cards my friend put in her invitations came from the store they registered in, since they had the store logo and whatnot on it.
Post # 8
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3340 posts
Sugar bee
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
@CarolinaCola: Why not put a link to your wedding website (which has a link to your registry among other things) instead of a direct link to your registry? I feel like this is a much better option personally.
ETA: Oh, you don’t have a website…well now you do have a good reason to have one! LOL! Just stick some photos up on it and a description of the proposal and you’re good to go. It doesn’t have to be super fancy or anything.
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
Okay so now yall are starting to make me feel like I’m the only bride on earth who doesn’t have a wedding website. Haha. It’s a super small wedding. We’ll probably be lucky if 40 people show up, so I didn’t think we needed a website.
Post # 10
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343 posts
Helper bee
@Ruby-Redshoes: +1.
My wedding website was listed on the back of our invites (and STD cards) and that worked well.
Post # 11
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1154 posts
Bumble bee
@CarolinaCola: I know it’s against traditional etiquette, but Bed Bath & Beyond printed those out specifically for us on perforated paper for that purpose. I will probably hand them off to the ladies hosting my shower and let them do what the want with them.
Post # 12
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2664 posts
Sugar bee
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
@CarolinaCola: I’m under the umbrella of “who gives a shit?”… you have a registry, there’s no point in hiding it. Whether you tell people or they find out about it through other people, what’s the difference? Personally, if I was a guest, I’d rather you just tell me directly with my invitation. Why do we need the beat around the bush bullshit?
Post # 13
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
If it’s tha small… word of mouth should be just fine. Before wedding websites word of mouth worked pretty well.
Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
@CarolinaCola: I like weddings. I like being invited. I do NOT like hunting around for information. Just put in the damn card and make things easier for people like me. I have family in Washington State, Connecticut, Tennessee, England and Greece. “Word of mouth” will not travel as fast as a little card in my case.
If someone thinks it’s tacky, they don’t have to come.
Post # 15
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6530 posts
Bee Keeper
@CarolinaCola: the registry info is given to whoever is throwing the shower. What I did was give my registry info to one of my BMs and told them to give it to whoever is throwing the shower.
I wanted to be surprised
