Post # 1
My guest list is a run away train! I have a venue (a garden in a public park) that is very strict on 100 max attendees. I have been told that if the park rangers suspect there are more than 100 guests on the day of the wedding, they will have no qualms about stopping the whole affair entirely. I thought i would be just under the 100 mark but of course I am just a novice at this wedding game. At this point, all my family knows about it and assume they are invited. The family list alone is at 76. I intend to stagger the invites and send them to family first so I can get their responses and invite more people accordingly. So my question is, what is an average perentage of invited guests that respond “no” to wedding invites? Also, what is the earliest reply date in relation to the wedding that you can have without seeming rude? And finally, for those on the “b” list (I hate that term), what is the lastest date you can invite them also without seeming rude? Ok, now that I have written this post I think I might be able to get some sleep! Thanks!
Post # 3
I would LOVE to know the answer to this question, too!
Post # 4
I’ve heard to assume about 20% will rsvp No…. maybe more if it’s out of town for a lot of guests.
Post # 5
I think 80% is the rule of thumb but it depends on where your wedding is and how many people have to travel. We went through and did a liklihood of attending percentage for each guest to try to be more accurate than just applying a blanket 80% and we are estimating 70% yield. But ours is in Charleston and our families and friends are spread throughout the US so it will be a flight for most.
Post # 6
btw – the 80% rule is for Yes responses 🙂
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay
i’ve heard around the 75-85% range as well, although of course it depends on how many people are coming from out of town, how remote the location is, etc. this was such a huge question for me too! right now we’re looking at about a 75% yes rate.
Post # 8
i have been wondering about this too! anyone know what the percentage tends to be for a wedding with 99% Out of Town guests?
Post # 9
For ours, about 20% declined 🙂
Post # 10
I would think the time of year, day of the week, etc. plays a big part too. Also, the amount of guests you invite (closeness of everyone). We only invited 68 (hoping for 55-60) but they could all very well come since we are close to all. I think that matters as well. But I’ve heard anywhere from 10-30% for most weddings.
Post # 11
According to our wedding specialist at our reception venue, the industry standard is that 20% of invited guests will RSVP “No.” Of course, that is an average, so you can’t count on it, but it is a good approximation. So if you don’t invite more than 120 people, you are pretty safe I think.
In terms of your other question about invites, invitations usually go out 6-8 weeks prior to the wedding. You could send family out first and wait for some responses before sending out the “b list”, but there may have to be some overlap. And by that, I mean that you probably wouldn’t be able to get all your family invites back before sending out your “b list” invites…that would require family to rsvp a little too early.
I hope this helps a little!
Post # 12
I like your idea of staggering invitations so that you can be sure that you don’t go over the 100 person max. We have invited 120 ppl to our wedding thinking that we would end up with no more than 100 “yes” responses in the end (it’s Out of Town for mostly everyone — but a pleasant 5-hour drive up the Maine coast). Well… we haven’t sent out invites yet, but from talking to people, it looks like we will probably end up with more than 100 guests in the end. So the lesson is, 80% might be the rule of thumb, but you never know.
Post # 13
we thought a lot more would say yes, but it is a drive for most people (2+ hours) and not a location that Out of Town want to hang out for an extended stay. on that note, we’re looking at about 70% acceptance, maybe less!
Post # 14
We have half our list coming from out of town and had about 25% decline: Invited 210 and 156 are coming. We wanted to keep it right around 150 so we were happy the “rule” of around 80% will come proved correct.
Post # 15
I think the earliest you could send out invites to family as an A list would be 10 weeks, with the due date at maybe 6 weeks before the wedding. Then you could send out the B list invites as soon as the no’s trickle in, with a due date of whenever your caterer needs final head count by.
Post # 16
I’ve been told by a few brides that all of your “yes” replys will come in long before your “no”s. So far this is holding tru for us. 207 people invited 110 replys…only 2 “no”s.
We had originally thought of doing a B List. Now I see that it wouldn’t have worked for us.