- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I recently have been dealing with a bout of bridesmaid drama, and wanted to articulate what I learned somewhere in the hopes of it helping someone else later (and also to process what I’m going through!). Maybe some of this is useful for wedding planning in general, but I learned it through picking my bridesmaids so wanted to put it here. I’ve tried to filter out my own personal experience to make it applicable. I think it reads a bit generic now but it is what it is.
You cannot control or predict how much your relationship with someone is worth to another person – You might value someone a lot more than they value you, or vice versa. Hopefully you have a good idea of this, but sometimes you don’t. It really hurts to be let down, but I’d rather know that a friendship has drifted apart than force a closeness that doesn’t exist.
Even with the best of intentions, sometimes people make you out to be the bad gal – You cannot please 100% of people 100% of the time. Sometimes people bring out whatever baggage they have going on with them and put it on you. That’s not fair but you don’t have to put up with it (and you’re not a bridezilla for not putting up with crap, even if you get called one!).
Try to see and appreciate what you have, as opposed to what you don’t have – By seeing all the joy and love you have, you’ll be happier than if you focused on the grumpiness and frustration of what you don’t have.